• TeNppa@sopuli.xyz
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    3 months ago

    It is well known that, when you’re single nobody wants you, but the second you manage to fool someone into relationship with you, you’re the most wanted man around.

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      3 months ago

      I’m just speculating here based on my own experience, but I wonder if part of it is also something subtle in your attitude that others pick up on.

      When I met the man who is now my husband, I wasn’t even looking for a relationship. I was just enjoying my life, exploring new hobbies, and was in a good place mentally – that is, I was fine if I ended up single for the rest of my life.

      I imagine married people also tend to be in a similar frame of mind where they aren’t looking for a relationship, and maybe there’s a confidence that comes out of that that is attractive to others.