By using “that’s gay” as a negative, there is an association that gay=bad regardless of context. I don’t feel that way but I understand other people’s perception of the phrase.
I think also the context genuinely matters. As a straight male, I personally would use “that’s gay” to point out something that is not mainstream normal, yet cool or cute; possibly even kitschy.
Wait, what’s wrong with saying “that’s gay”?
By using “that’s gay” as a negative, there is an association that gay=bad regardless of context. I don’t feel that way but I understand other people’s perception of the phrase.
So it’s not really about saying it, it’s about stopping thinking that it’s somehow negative.
But of course I was being 80% ironic with my original comment. I was simply implying there’s nothing inherently wrong with saying it.
I think also the context genuinely matters. As a straight male, I personally would use “that’s gay” to point out something that is not mainstream normal, yet cool or cute; possibly even kitschy.