in my experience
Just thinking about an interaction today. It’s pretty interesting how I tell the average person (especially males) a story where i’m the victim and they immediately intensely victim blame me.
This is probably largely due to rock bottom low positive sentiment of the person directed towards me. I don’t know why i talk to some of people i talk to. At least when i think about it. I’m pretty sure i have higher standard for which internet acquaintances i talk to regularly then irl acquaintances. If it’s an internet interaction, if i establish they’re uhh unsuitable i don’t talk to them anymore, and maybe i should do that irl for acquintances?
Obv if you vets someone as being good company, they don’t victim blame you.
I’ve only tried twice so far specifically telling the person I’m speaking to not give me advice. Didn’t work both times - I think their word vomit is too strong for them to hold back.
One of them I’ve told twice too. Didn’t work the second time either. Now when we’re talking, I just don’t complain to her