A friend of mine is arguing with me saying cishet men are oppressed and stuff. He thinks I’m insane for supporting the community I’m a part of

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    Just pull up the Wikipedia page about LGBTQIA rights, show the anti-trans bills that have passed, the death threats against agencies that show any level of support.

    I wouldn’t even try to argue that cishet men aren’t oppressed because: A. The burden is on the person making the claim, B. You can’t prove a negative, and C. It’s irrational to think that they are.

    I’m a cishet man myself, and while I’ve experienced a lot of hate for being gay, there has never been a time I’ve received any hate for being cis. That’s just ridiculous.

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        Sounds like he just has brainrot then, and no amount of factual evidence could persuade him otherwise. Whether someone is “visible” or “has rights” isn’t even the discussion. There are clearly harsh inequities between straight cis people and LGBTQIA people, just as there are harsh inequities between men and women.

        It’s like trying to persuade someone that we need oxygen to survive, and having them respond by saying they don’t believe in the existence of oxygen. You can’t really have a discussion with such a person. Personally, I’d rather be lonely than be friends with someone as exhausting as that.

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          I’m just sad because all this happened so suddenly. Now I’m just lonely. Down to 1 accepting friend and 2 who I don’t know their stance but its prolly not great. I’m sorry I really just need to vent

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            It sucks, but I’m my experience, the faster you cut these people from your life, the faster you will make genuine connections.

            Imagine if you brought this friend around the queer community. Nobody would risk being your friend because you are connected with this asshole.

            Cut him out. Make new connections. Move on. Be happy.

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              I already cut him off. I hope i find some queer communities in my area. Place is full of church shit and nothing else

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                Maybe check FetLife for local kink munches. They are queer friendly and may be able to help. Kink is pretty underground, so they may know hidden stuff