• Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I wonder if there’s a way to engineer some of these issues out of the equation effectively. Like a way to equalize both sides of the pool so that both genders get a better experience.

    Like maybe set up a “room” where 5 men and 5 women interact for a certain amount of time (or indefinite?) and then at the end can choose to continue contact or find a new group.

    Or making it explicit for what each person is looking for and enforcing it in that app at least, like if you say you’re into monogamy, limit the number of people you can chat with and have some mechanism of communicating clearly to partners which you’ve selected, so someone can’t say they aren’t looking but continue swiping anyways. Could set it up so that the app recognizes exclusiveness and tells matches if they’ve set that up with another person and that other person if they cancel it to set it up with someone new.

    Or limit matches so that women aren’t as overwhelmed or feel like their matches need to jump through hoops to impress them and stand out from so many options. Even as a guy, the times when I’ve had multiple matches with active conversation going on with more than one seems to make it less likely it will go anywhere with any of them.

    Sorry about two different replies in the same thread, just figured I’d break them up (heh) as they are different lines of thought.

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      1 year ago

      I honestly think they should introduce some element of scarcity. Like only match people with up to 5 people per week. This limits the selection and gives some room for people to focus a bit on having a proper conversation.

      When I used dating apps the backlog of people to talk to was endless. Made it really hard to care about one person. You always had the feeling that you should maybe keep looking.

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        1 year ago

        Coffee meets bagel did this. You get X people per day, regardless of match or not.