See title.

I’m clean, don’t scream or stare, I stay reading my phone…it’s just damned weird.

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    Are there other empty groups of seats? I find people generally spread out to avoid others.

    It’s certainly something I do. I’ll sit next to someone (choosing the least talkative looking people first) only if there is no other choice.

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    This is called the “bus rule” around here, you don’t sit beside someone if there’s a still a set of seats you can have to yourself.

    I’d be more worried if they did sit beside you, as that’d be considered a bit creepy.

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      There’s also a bit more at play with the bus rule.

      Take a seat in an empty row first

      Not in front of someone that looks sketchy

      Not immediately behind someone particularly attractive unless other rows are full (can be creepy)

      If you must share a row don’t sit next to the meth head OR the young girl.

      Don’t sit towards the rear when there’s a group of troublemakers on the rearmost seats.

      Do sit near exits but preferably one row behind others so you’re not the first person noticed by someone sketchy

      There’s more but a lot of optimisation, particularly lo safety and social comfort, goes into selecting the best seating and neurotypical people do it completely subconsciously.

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    Do you sit near others, even within a few seats, or generally as separate as possible? Most people in my experience sit away from others. If I see someone sitting near/engaging with strangers I generally assume some mixture of mental illness or ill intentions/scammy behavior.

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    People leave a space between them and someone else to have some personal space and respect other’s personal space

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    I do not think it is you at all. I am on the autism spectrum myself and I purposely sit away from others because being boxed in by other people causes me to be way overstimulated. I don’t believe it is intended to be a slight against you, rather it’s just people’s preferences.

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    Happens the same to me. I learned to give a single f. I even find it a bliss, some people smell bad, are with the headphones killing their eardrums, pushing me because their are too big, farting, whatever… is not a pleasant experience one would want to do on purpose.