Me personally? I’ve become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women’s expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I’ve matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I’ve come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of ‘humor’ really is, and I regret it deeply.
Nah dawg. “That’s gay” means “I understand that some people enjoy this thing, but I have tried it a few times and find it gross and painful, but that doesn’t mean the people that do enjoy it have to stop doing it,” like improv comedy. “That’s retarded” means “this is something that people born with an extra chromosome or who have had a severe brain injury would enjoy,” like NASCAR.
I think you’re applying very limited and anecdotal definitions that most people don’t/didn’t strictly adhere to.