I fixed like half my problems by synchronising my calendar app across all my devices with my own Nextcloud.
Also, being open about my ADHD, which is at least equally important.
Now, whenever I get any info I’ll need in the future, I write it into my calendar. Even while the other person is still talking to me, this is why being open about your needs is important.
If the info is already tied to a date (“Hey, you wanna go to the movies on Friday?”) I save it for that date. With a questionmark if it’s not confirmed yet, and as a full day if the time isn’t yet set.
If the info isn’t tied to a date, like seeing something that would make a great Christmas gift for someone, I save it with a date and time when I’ll likely be able to deal with it more thoroughly.
My calendar app notifies me about upcoming events and those notifications are set to highest priority so they show up on my lock screen.
That way, every time I look at my phone I’m reminded of all things that are important right now.
If a notification pops up and I don’t have time to deal with it right now, I leave it open or delay it for another date so it pops up again.
This only works if you do it as if your life depended on it. I am used to rely on my calendar notifications now, so everything that isn’t in there I will definitely forget.
Took me 25 years to find a system that works for me, but now it does, and it has massively improved my (and my wife’s) quality of life.
I also find that being open is key. My friends know that I need to write stuff down immediately as it happens or I forget it. So they are OK with me pulling out my planner or phone in the middle of a conversation.
I fixed like half my problems by synchronising my calendar app across all my devices with my own Nextcloud.
Also, being open about my ADHD, which is at least equally important.
Now, whenever I get any info I’ll need in the future, I write it into my calendar. Even while the other person is still talking to me, this is why being open about your needs is important.
If the info is already tied to a date (“Hey, you wanna go to the movies on Friday?”) I save it for that date. With a questionmark if it’s not confirmed yet, and as a full day if the time isn’t yet set.
If the info isn’t tied to a date, like seeing something that would make a great Christmas gift for someone, I save it with a date and time when I’ll likely be able to deal with it more thoroughly.
My calendar app notifies me about upcoming events and those notifications are set to highest priority so they show up on my lock screen.
That way, every time I look at my phone I’m reminded of all things that are important right now.
If a notification pops up and I don’t have time to deal with it right now, I leave it open or delay it for another date so it pops up again.
This only works if you do it as if your life depended on it. I am used to rely on my calendar notifications now, so everything that isn’t in there I will definitely forget.
Took me 25 years to find a system that works for me, but now it does, and it has massively improved my (and my wife’s) quality of life.
I also find that being open is key. My friends know that I need to write stuff down immediately as it happens or I forget it. So they are OK with me pulling out my planner or phone in the middle of a conversation.