I just found out from my wife that if I continue to explore my non-binary identity outside of the confines of our house, she’s going to end up leaving me. Talk about a lose-lose scenario, fuck me. I really don’t want to hear the “you’re better off without her if she can’t be accepting” line of thinking. I get where you’d be going with that, but there’s a lot more going on beyond this wherein I need her.

  • EnbyJesus@slrpnk.netEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    I think you have to just be prepared for her not being attracted to your AGAB but also prepared to have a real conversation once that reality sets in for her. If it doesn’t work for her, that sucks but that’s just the reality of the situation. But it might if time lets it sink in for her. It might, it might not. I hope for the best though.

    Edit: I’m also not personally good at relationships for myself so take this all with a very large grain of salt.

    • militant_spider@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      1·
      1 year ago

      She’s actually exclusively attracted to my AGAB, at least in me. So moving away from that is actually the root of the problem.

      • GreyGhost@lemmy.oneEnglish
        1·
        1 year ago

        My friend, I feel for you. This is a very difficult situation. However, at the core of it is a decision you have to make, but only you can make it.

        Is your partner more important to you than your identity?

        • militant_spider@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          3·
          1 year ago

          That’s exactly the issue at hand. Plus all of the stigma and questions from family and friends if the split happens, which I’m by no means capable of dealing with.

          • GreyGhost@lemmy.oneEnglish
            2·
            1 year ago

            Everything seems impossible until you do it. Don’t sell yourself short, or you’ll always be dependent on someone – instead of just wanting to be around someone. You may want to look into attachment styles. Good luck.