Why does it seem that people actively avoid expressing disaagreements on what somone says when they are out somewhere having a conversation? Why arwe people more concerned about trying to sound nice rather than being honest? It’s not provactive or antagonizing to simply say “I can’t agree with you on that, I disagree.” I suspect that if someone articulates the reasoning behind their disagreement, a lot of people would not be bothered by it, unless someone wants everybody to believe the same things and are easily disturbed by contrary points of views.

  • Knoxvomica
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    3 months ago

    Because when people have a conversation they try to share common experiences. There are ways to say “I disagree” that won’t shut down the conversation. Just saying that leaves the other person no options to continue the conversation because you are shutting down their topic. A few folks here already gave great answers so I won’t repeat the advice.

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      3 months ago

      There are ways to say “I disagree” that won’t shut down the conversation.

      True for the majority of topics.

      Unfortunately, less so for things like politics and religion.

      And especially when both are combined and have become a core part of that person’s personal identity.

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        3 months ago

        Ironically, folks who broach the topic on politics and religion are typically also having those things as a core part of their personality.

        I think typically polite company dictates no religion, no politics no money talk. Been that way forever.

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          3 months ago

          typically polite company dictates no religion, no politics no money talk. Been that way forever.

          Absolutely agree.

          But unfortunately increasing numbers of people seem to feel the need to inject those topics (and their strong opinions on those topics) into otherwise normal conversation.