Every time I ever called one of those hotlines to talk about how I was abused by a partner, the person on the other end would misgender my abuser because they just assumed I was straight. So what I experienced was having my queerness erased and being morally obligated to defend my abuser’s gender identity to some faceless stranger. Some of these hotline people would repeatedly he/him my rapist who is a trans woman, and now I’m having to defend my rapist from a queer-erasing transphobe. Abuse victims do not need to be made responsible for defending their abuser’s basic rights and gender. Fuck those hotline people.