Maybe anon is an awkward young person who understands the ethical issue, but is hiding behind social norms because he has trouble with asserting his own ethical views and being accepted for them. Maybe he’s using the boyfriend as an excuse to avoid her trying to prove she’s sober enough and she can totally consent.
Maybe. But we don’t know and should not speculate, we can only work with the text that we have.
I’m not saying anon is a bad person, just that in the text as is, he’s not identifying the correct issue and instead relying on patriarchal preconceptions about relationships, which is a bad thing.
Maybe anon is an awkward young person who understands the ethical issue, but is hiding behind social norms because he has trouble with asserting his own ethical views and being accepted for them. Maybe he’s using the boyfriend as an excuse to avoid her trying to prove she’s sober enough and she can totally consent.
Maybe. But we don’t know and should not speculate, we can only work with the text that we have.
I’m not saying anon is a bad person, just that in the text as is, he’s not identifying the correct issue and instead relying on patriarchal preconceptions about relationships, which is a bad thing.