I think it says more about your locus of control than anything else. I’m also a guy and I didn’t have quite the visceral reaction to this you had.
The article is about a woman who was in an abusive relationship and she recalls other past trauma inflicted by men in her life.
The gross majority of my trauma was also inflicted by men. Does this mean all men (like you and I) are bad? Nah. That’s a conclusion drawn by lazy thinking.
There’s a problem with cultural norms and expectations attached to men.
And at the end of the article it’s stated she wanted all men to stay away from her because of those few men. Now flip the coin and tell me in the same circumstance that a man saying “I want all women to stay away from me because of bad experiences with a handful” isn’t bizarre and creepy? So why can’t it be bizarre and creepy when women do that shit? Why am I not allowed to be offended when a person or a news article makes it out that women’s major problems are men when if I say my major problem is women, I’d be sexist?
No it’s actually quite rational. It’s how the human brain works. We all seek patterns, it’s how our cognition functions at a base level.
If repeated and constant trauma is had and there is one very glaring thing in common with 95%+ of it (like in her case being always perpetrated by men), you will be constantly be reminded of that trauma when you’re around guys.
It sucks because it’s not fair to the good chunk of dudes who wish no harm of any sort to her, but that’s how it works.
It isn’t “bizarre” or “creepy”, it’s how a human brain reacts to chronic traumatic stress.
Why am I not allowed to be offended
I think actually wanting to be offended and trying to find reasons to continue to be offended is more “bizarre” and “creepy” than someone else’s traumatic stress disorder.
But with that exact logic, what you’re saying is if the majority of the hardships I deal with have been done by, let’s say, black people. Then it’s ok for me to not trust black people and it’s ok to say “I don’t want black people around me”.
Another thing you said is “it’s not fair”, but isn’t that what equality is? Fairness for all peoples?
I never assumed any trauma or stress on your part. You skimmed my comment and picked a keyword you didn’t like. I think you need to go back and read what I wrote in a day or two, once your emotions are not hijacking your critical thinking skills.
This conversation is over. There is nothing left to explain to ya.
I disagree. There’s plenty to explain, but not a lot to talk about. You have chosen to position of the submissive boy, which is ok. Enjoy your mommy(s). You however are also not interested in having a conversation with me because your mommy(s) didn’t give you the right paddle on the bum bum to be able to talk about this efficiently
I think it says more about your locus of control than anything else. I’m also a guy and I didn’t have quite the visceral reaction to this you had.
The article is about a woman who was in an abusive relationship and she recalls other past trauma inflicted by men in her life.
The gross majority of my trauma was also inflicted by men. Does this mean all men (like you and I) are bad? Nah. That’s a conclusion drawn by lazy thinking.
There’s a problem with cultural norms and expectations attached to men.
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And at the end of the article it’s stated she wanted all men to stay away from her because of those few men. Now flip the coin and tell me in the same circumstance that a man saying “I want all women to stay away from me because of bad experiences with a handful” isn’t bizarre and creepy? So why can’t it be bizarre and creepy when women do that shit? Why am I not allowed to be offended when a person or a news article makes it out that women’s major problems are men when if I say my major problem is women, I’d be sexist?
No it’s actually quite rational. It’s how the human brain works. We all seek patterns, it’s how our cognition functions at a base level.
If repeated and constant trauma is had and there is one very glaring thing in common with 95%+ of it (like in her case being always perpetrated by men), you will be constantly be reminded of that trauma when you’re around guys.
It sucks because it’s not fair to the good chunk of dudes who wish no harm of any sort to her, but that’s how it works.
It isn’t “bizarre” or “creepy”, it’s how a human brain reacts to chronic traumatic stress.
I think actually wanting to be offended and trying to find reasons to continue to be offended is more “bizarre” and “creepy” than someone else’s traumatic stress disorder.
And there you go assuming my trauma or stress.
But with that exact logic, what you’re saying is if the majority of the hardships I deal with have been done by, let’s say, black people. Then it’s ok for me to not trust black people and it’s ok to say “I don’t want black people around me”.
Another thing you said is “it’s not fair”, but isn’t that what equality is? Fairness for all peoples?
I never assumed any trauma or stress on your part. You skimmed my comment and picked a keyword you didn’t like. I think you need to go back and read what I wrote in a day or two, once your emotions are not hijacking your critical thinking skills.
This conversation is over. There is nothing left to explain to ya.
I disagree. There’s plenty to explain, but not a lot to talk about. You have chosen to position of the submissive boy, which is ok. Enjoy your mommy(s). You however are also not interested in having a conversation with me because your mommy(s) didn’t give you the right paddle on the bum bum to be able to talk about this efficiently