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Oh, cool. Need to check it. I never heard of it before.

OpenDoor. Noted. Thanks.

My kind of heroes. People who seek to better the world without seeking attention while doing it.

And there’s an app to help contributing to openstreetmap.

Here’s a link to it on f-droid…

https://f-droid.org/packages/de.westnordost.streetcomplete/

Although there’s great people still committed to doing great work in there, I’ve stopped using YouTube because the platform itself is utter garbage. It’s a hellscape, and in my opinion it was no coincidence that when Google bought it in 2010, it only took a few months for Gamergate to happen from that point of injection. I eventually gave up youtube and when I go there without an account to watch just one singular video that was posted elsewhere as a link, I’m reminded why the world is just a shit show now. Fascist grifters, AI Slop and rage bait accompanied by all the disinformation possible and fraudulent ads to top it with. Just awful.

And if anyone as never checked YouTube without an account… it’s a grim look.

I have to say I use Peertube from time to time but I haven’t checked Odysee yet.

I think that the inherent mnemonics of a religious background are built on dream logic and magical thinking. And contamination is abstract enough to be absorbed into that spectrum.

I know this because I was raised very religious and struggled a lot with OCD when I was younger. As I learned more and more through the scientific method I was able to shed it throughout time. But it wasn’t easy.

Religiosity is based on repression. Repression nurtures residual obsession, one if harbored continously generates compulsion. Obsessive-Compulsive behaviour as a result is just unsurprising. And also why intrusive thoughts are so common as a result in this setting.

And so is addiction as a compulsion. From substance abuse, gambling, sex addiction and exacerbated daily rituals elevated to deranged value, to eating disorders and excessive physical exercise.

Compulsion and addiction are tension release mechanisms, and in lives being built on the tension of self-shaming and the inescapable judgement of an eternal omnipresent entity that can grant you wishes or deliver punishment, one is at war with one’s own thoughts, reactions and natural urges, which without understanding of them and of the inherent value of the world surrounding us leads to catastrophic results.

And it’s so horrifying that even suicide is not an option to escape this toxic loop, as the true believers believe that if they end it all they will be condemned to hell.

As someone who escaped the mindset and setting of religiosity, I can tell you that in retrospective it feels a lot like hell to have lived like that.

All this to say, that many anthropologists have also pointed out that religion was used to control the populace and its habits. And one of them being hygiene and preventing desease from spreading. Washing and cleansing are part of many rituals in many religions for a reason. Without much knowledge, past plagues and epidemic events were dealt with a mixture of sanitary habits and superstition all muddled into one.

And it’s why religious people are so frightened of everything.

The feedback loop in their minds keeps everything that is condemned by their in-group and their mindset obsessively circling their thoughts, and the acceptance of others to each other in the out-group(s) is then perceived as an overreaching threat that resembles an epidemic to them in their overzealous mindset.

But notice how evangelicals can dismiss an actual Pandemic killing people, and instead claim that trans and gay people are the actual epidemic threat which has no contamination value whatsoever. To anyone rational, this is just a result of acceptance at understanding that the underlying difference is not a threat, but to them this is “desease spreading”.

The final step in complete radicalization is to have them surrender empathy entirely. Because it’s a way out of the loop. And a way to form connections with out-groups. Which is why empathy has to become a sin to completely isolate them from others. Empathy has to be perceived as “sin-allowing” and “desease spreading” (the same to them) in order to consolidate the cycle.

Everyone should be frightened, because this is a group that is unreasonable and not possible to reach and is ultimately terrified of everyone that is not them. And residing in fear accelerates violent tendencies. This might lead to a culminating event where war is the only possible outcome. As it will just be self-defence by that point. The sad part is that they will also see it that way. When none of it was inevitable, and they were never in any danger to begin with.

No one is at war with them.

But that is not their perception of the world.

I know this last part wasn’t the focus of the article, but it still functions as part of the abstraction of contamination and desease avoidance of their mindset and that makes it impossible to avoid discussing.

This is nice. Do you have a Pixelfed account that one can follow?

This is a nice little gem of a video.

May I ask what are the instances as a heads up?

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Given the viewing numbers that “Normal People” and “Conversations with Friends” got and get, this is a great way to use British Public State Money to send a giant middle finger to the State.

Bravo.

I only presume that now adaptations of Sally Rooney novels are not going to be greenlit at the BBC anymore. And the existing shows are going to vanish from broadcast schedules and the BBC online platform. Right?

And I don’t see MUBI picking it up given their strict ties to Israel.

So… yeah, shitty world we have.

But bravo to her nonetheless.

The “Fully Functional” is something that the most level headed adults that I know, men or otherwise, would refute on the spot. I don’t think I know anyone who feels like a fully functional person. Or an adult for that matter. As that is an elusive concept to begin with. Although, that doesn’t mean one can’t find ways to mature.

I’m 40. And the thing that I’ll say is that kids and younger people have it harder these days. The world is in a state of unprecedented cacophony, in which the previous existential threats that loomed over the previous generations are all stacking up to form a massive sense of unease.

Whichever adult, men, woman or other, that claims they have it all figured in the face of increasing calamity is lying. Possibly to themselves first.

The men who feel the way(s) that you mentioned, are not wrong in feeling the way they do. They can only be wrong in how they act in response to it. Because from time to time, we’re all bound to feel like that at one point or another. And unfortunately in some circumstances and contexts that might be more persistent than others.

The great failure of our time is not that men, young or not, are failing more, but that we are all failing more. Because we are all failing each other. Some more than others, obviously. But even so, we’re failing to reach one another at some point in a growing secluded world.

You can eat your greens. Go to the gym. Earn income that allows you comfort. Find a partner. And even have a child…

And still feel all the things that these “men” do.

The point of maturity is to not make others pay for what burdens you.

And the only escape out of that isolated space is not the “self-improvement” route that the fraudulent will try to coach others. As that is just maintenance.

The way out of loneliness is in service of others. Which has always been the the case and will always be.

Trying to find a way out of loneliness by trying to find a romantic partner to “fix that” is just offloading the burdening responsibility to another person. And regardless of sex or sexual orientation that will always lead to a toxic dependency and a relationship that never ends well.

I’m a 40 year old dude. I have a home. I get to do what I’m passionate about. I have a partner that I live with and I love her. But if anyone comes knocking for advice, I tell them that if they’re looking for easy answers, they’re looking for lies to comfort them out of what they already know to be true… That life is complicated and none of us really know what we’re doing while we’re roaming this earth.

But it sure is a whole lot easier when we’re kind to one another. And that is about the only certainty we’re gonna get before we die.

Everything else is noise.

This year I had to euthanize a cat I had the pleasure to have in my life for almost 14 years. I saw her come into this world right out of her mum, and I was there when she died. Afterwards, we brought her from the veterinarian and buried her in my mother’s backyard.

She had late stage cancer. I never knew when was the right moment to say “it’s time”. The fucked up part is that we can’t get verbal confirmation that “this is it” for them.

She could barely walk or breathe by the end and I didn’t know if I was being selfish or if I was stealing time that she still wanted to have. It was brutal. Everyday was just one more day that I wanted to say goodbye.

And then one day I saw her struggle so much to breathe and said “it’s time”. The meds didn’t work anymore and I couldn’t ease her suffering in any way anymore.

That moment still sounds far off with your beloved friend. Treasure those cozy and snuggled naps they love to take and be kind to yourself as you navigate it all.