Neurodivergence includes a lot of things other than autism, and I think it would sometimes be hard to tell who is neurodivergent and who isn’t. There are plenty very social people with ADHD, for example.

So it seems a bit silly to have “us vs them” in mind. Because you don’t know. Are you suddenly going to turn tables on someone and agree with them because they decide they’re ADHD?

What are you trying to achieve?

Not showering? Or having some kind of support?

Instead of focussing on just “I have autism this is hard,” why not look into what might help you, so you can give your mom a clearer idea of how to support you.

For me, showering is so easy not to do at all. I have things built into my schedule which require it, though. Like massage (I feel obligated to be clean for that, and have a routine getting ready for massage). Also I’ve identified things that make me feel gross about being unclean, like when my hair is greasy, and that stays on my mind now once I notice it.

Also if you’re still under 18 (or whatever the age of adulthood is there), a diagnosis is probably a good idea because there may be support available somewhere.

It’s actually much more comfortable for two people in one bed to have separate blankets. :) might be worth trying two twin blankets. Then your partner could have what they prefer and you could have weighted.

As I understand it, social deficits are an absolute requirement for a diagnosis.

This is at least partly because there are several other conditions that can be explained by any particular group of autism symptoms.

Autism is a disability defined by social deficits and repetitive/restrictive interests and behaviour. If you don’t meet both criteria to an extent that it affects your life, then by definition you do not have autism.

It’s a standard I grew up with - if anything I wonder if I should be raising it for inflation.

Much like servers, delivery drivers aren’t paid properly if they aren’t tipped. But, in my mind, the quantity of food matters a lot less to the delivery driver’s work, unless it’s a large enough order to require multiple trips from the vehicle.

For the amount of time a driver has to work to drive to me and park and bring my order to the front door, yeah I think $5 is more than reasonable. They probably spend more time on me than a server in a restaurant does, in a lot of cases.

Pretty sure those aren’t mutually exclusive.

Came here for this.

I’m partial to flax linen, even though it’s not quite as good sustainability-wise as hemp.

It’s almost as absorbent and has similar anti microbial properties. But the main thing is it’s softer.

Hemp does appear to soften up over time but it can’t match linen’s particular soft smooth suppleness in the short nor the long run.

That said, the last decade or so “linen” is being made with factory processes using fibre ends instead of full strands. So it’s getting harder and harder to find real linen material that doesn’t break down in a couple years.

They’re even weaving jersey (stretch) material from it which is ridiculous, and eschews many of the benefits of the material. -_-

A few weeks back I was out with my kids and heard about someone jumping in front of the train that day.

All I could think was: what if a kid was sitting up front enjoying the ride and looking at the tracks? How would I deal with that if it were my kid?

Sounds like a justified cost to me.

They already stop in the same place consistently. Look for the gum and scuffs on the yellow strip. That’s where the doors will open.

You can already tell by the gum on the yellow strip.

Delivery: $5 Takeout: $0 Sit Down: 18%

Yes. The Jade.

My three year old doesn’t bother with “no” most of the time, he just screams.

Or sometimes I get “NO I DO IT.”

What… I thought a twoonie was generous! You guys are all crazier than I am.

I’m in Canada but that may be true here as well.

Even from that description though it sounds like a grey area? Doing a craft project with someone isn’t like a romantic relationship or anything.

Like everyone is saying, the mods are fantastic. I’m consistently surprised by how few issues I run into between the mods on my enormous list.

I did get some accidental “revenge” for this one.

Sometime months later, for some reason my phone started pocket dialling this psychologist and nobody else.

I didn’t even realize it was happening. But it drove her so nuts she called me about it a few times, and eventually asked me to remove her number from my phone.

Oh I have another one:

One counsellor I went to see through work insurance was just awful.

Most notably, I was dealing with issues surrounding having open heart surgery, and when I brought it up she started talking about her nephew or something who had some kind of heart problem, and how that obviously means she understands completely.

In my early 20s, I was seeing a psychologist for depression. Because of issues with my mom, she thought it’d be a good idea to have an appointment with her involved.

So my mom came to an appointment.

And right after they met, it turns out they started meeting up personally to do some kind of craft project together.

The psychologist did inform me and check if it was alright but I had no idea what to say. Trust broken and I just stopped making appointments.

Hello! I’m still learning how Lemmy works… are you the one who mentioned making a rimworld server here, on /r/Rimworld? That’s what brought me.