Big changes! HRT and surgeries are often inflection points for breakups. Sounds like you’re on the right track. Breakups are hard during any time let alone during second puberty. Good luck 🫶

I remember that feeling so clearly. Mood boost is one of the earliest benefits of HRT, or at least it was for me. Congrats!

Also for what it’s worth, I could never really date all that much before hormones. A month into HRT I had a cute little fling and later that year I met my boyfriend. 5 years and going strong.

Gotcha no worries thanks for the heads up

Thanks 🫡

Thank you! 😊

Thank you for tagging her for me! If she doesn’t see it I’ll reach out to her soon ❤️

Do you know who I would even talk to in order to find out if this instance is comfortable hosting them? In the long run I am working on setting up my own server but that won’t help if the sub is banned tomorrow for example

Yeah personally I think linking to a Reddit thread is fine because it can be deleted on Reddit still. And then just replying to it here with info so the people have to click through and poke around to get the info they need until eventually they decide to join, etc.

All the more reason to work with the communities to establish a backup.

Right which is what brought me here 😅

Tbh I think that Lemmy is not ideal for archiving existing knowledge. There are people already doing that and I suspect a mirror to wikis and such will be up and running shortly.

The ethics of mirroring the Reddit posts are also ethically dubious. The norm there is that people delete their shit all the time and move on with their lives after surgeries are done. That’s okay because the knowledge lives on via word of mouth about which surgeons are good, etc.

To my mind the much bigger risk here is that the community itself has nowhere to go when a ban happens so everyone just scatters. The data can all be backed up but it’s useless sitting on a hard drive with nobody to share it with.

I have talked to the mod at Transgender_Surgeries and the vibe is they’ve worked tirelessly for years doing a thankless job and are too burned out but are open to others taking the lead—probably more likely they would add it to a list of resources if someone else takes the lead on this

I agree with getting off of simply mirroring Reddit content but I think we need a bridge in order to get people posting here. Like if I reply with helpful info here then people have follow up questions maybe they’ll ask me here instead of there type of thing & slowly migrate over

Sure I am not knocking the attempt as a matter of principle.

However, you are plainly wrong about the Canadian constitution if you think it’s safer. Look into the notwithstanding clause.

All a politician needs to do in order to genocide us with explicitly transphobic legislation is invoke the notwithstanding clause.

And Pierre Poilievre has said he will do so in order to add new criminal offences to the law that violate human rights. His party’s platform is also looking like it will win a majority and the platform includes banning trans women from female spaces at the federal level (something that can only be done via the criminal code thanks to separation of powers in our constitution).

They explicitly don’t even need a state of emergency or any reason at all to do so. They just need to do it & it overrides all of section 15 charter rights which means all of our rights to be free from discrimination on the basis of trans status.

Totally legal in Canadas constitution and would likely be upheld by the Supreme Court. It’s a massive hole in our country’s legal system.

Not trying to be discouraging here. Just FYI I live in Canada and am beginning to assess my own options for leaving if needed. India and Thailand are looking pretty good. EU, NZ, and AUS maybe.

This is unfortunately not at all how the laws work in Canada. We tried this so many times but we have a safe 3rd country agreement with the US so it just gets shot down.

Also people in Canada aren’t all that much more friendly to us.