Dating is basically two things.

• Playing the numbers game until you meet someone who clicks.
• Adjusting your expectations (normally as you get older)

You’ve said it yourself.

I’ve met guys irl that I would have loved to date which I might not have swiped on from an app, and vice versa

Essentially if you wanna date you gotta have a positive mindset about it. Else the relationship is already facing an uphill battle and will likely fail.