No shit

1. No. I’ve been very lonely for a long time. I play computer games with friends once a week. That is the extent of my socialization along with an occasional chat with my folks on the phone.

2. I don’t have the time or inclination to see other people who are caregivers. The time I do have to myself I spend running (early mornings) and playing games or programming in the afternoons.

3. Answered above. About three or so hours a day to do me stuff, but that depends on cooking or other things (I cook everything she eats from scratch, long story why).

There is light at the end of the tunnel for me. She finally has a doctor that seems to know what is wrong with her. One of her symptoms that befuddled doctors for years is gone after starting treatment (she was hospitalized with it). And even without that I’m hopefully going to get a full time caregiver or two in here in the next couple months. I have friends vetting people. So things are looking up for me at least. And hopefully my wife starts to feel better, but if not I’m setting myself up for a more sustainable future. I can’t burn my whole life helping her. I’ve done this for years and I will end up in an early grave if I don’t get help.

Now onto what you asked about. I think your situation is more complex than I originally thought. It is a closer relationship. But if my wife found the cure to her illness, and then started drinking alcohol which brought back her illness, I would have a very very very hard time going back to care for her. We’ve had things that were similar. During a good time she tried to lead a normalish life, but her body isn’t built for it. I warned her and warned her and warned her. This ended up to a relapse that had persisted for five years. I feel a little bit of resentment from that, but not much because she wasn’t doing anything nuts. Just having people over for tea parties, and little things like that pretty frequently. And she wasn’t 50% when she was doing that. But she was doing maybe 20% of what a normal person would do.

If she started to party and take substances that interfere with her medicine I would have a real hard time getting on board with caring for her. She hasn’t made a decision to make her sick. She just is. Fate was cruel to her. And if we had our lives back and she messed with her treatment I would be massively resentful and maybe unwilling to he despite my great love for her.

Hi There. I’ve been a full time caregiver to my extremely ill wife for like ten years now. I don’t have any backup and I have to be on every single day. I bring this up because I know it is extremely taxing to do this sort of work. And I love that I can help the person I love the most in the world every day be a little less miserable. It sucks but that is life.

Now, I am in a marriage and even then most people think I’m crazy for doing what I do. As far as I can tell, you don’t have any bond but friendship with your friend. That is great and I’m so happy that you were able to be there for them. You did an amazing thing for them and I’m so happy you exist. You are an amazing person for doing it. But they were able to get the help they needed.

You are under no obligation to continue, you’ve already gone way beyond. If they are doing things that harm themselves, you do not need to burn yourself up to help them. This would be true even if they were just relapsing without the self medication. You personally deserve time to yourself.

Just tell them that you love them, and that you think their decision to take substances other than their meds is harmful and as long as they are harming themselves you will continue to be distant. (If that is what you feel).

Anyways, I can’t tell you how great you are and I’m glad you exist. But you deserve to live for you sometimes too.

Is the “heat collection system” just barrels of water or something more complex? I know water can hold onto a lot of heat.

I mean, the dude doesn’t have the power to do anything yet. So it is pretty timely given that we have a full four months to campaign on it and maybe get the power to implement the things.

Margaret Killjoy is just a joy to read. Her hook for this article, an anecdote about arguing with a pedant on the train, is just such a good way to introduce the article.

The US at least already has enough nuclear to handle base loads when solar and wind are unavailable. Nukes in some contexts are needed, but I believe we have 30% or so nukes in the US. Diverting resources to new nukes is a waste when we could be making carbon fuels unprofitable soon by investing in solar and wind.

The problem is that none of these designs have ever been used to power the grid. Every nuclear project in the recent past has blown by cost and time estimates. Wind and solar are not only cheaper than nukes, they can also be installed much quicker and predictably. Nukes have a place, but we need clean energy now.

When it comes to this ecocide, I’m not entirely opposed to mob justice for these fuckers (oil and gas executives and the fuckers who promoted their lies).

Margaret Killjoy is my hero

The shitty thing about this is that the businesses will probably be fine. This sort of heat causes chronic dehydration which won’t kill their workers immediately.

But it will kill them through destroying their kidneys and the like. But I’m sure these psychopaths will think they will just be able to hire some other poor person to fill the spot.

His early death was an unbelievable loss.

Debt and The Dawn of Everything are amazing books.

His argument here resonates with me viscerally. I was a milquetoast liberal at the start of the Obama era but progressively got more radical as nothing changed for the better. The Trump years, and especially Biden’s term has turned me into a self identifying anarchist.

I still vote, because I see the Republicans as so much worse the the dems. But I see that as harm mitigation and not actually something they will result in positive change. I focus on helping my community become more resilient.

I don’t know who this is, but good journalists don’t really need to be experts in the field they are covering. This is a very rare thing, but it happens.

For instance, the people at the podcast ScienceVs cover many things very well. I don’t think the host even has an advanced degree. There is at least one PhD on staff.

Reagan was a giant fucking piece of shit.

What a fascist fuck. He doesn’t want to give aid to a democracy being invaded by his fascist friend. So he add riders that are bs.

I was happy that I had seen an April Fools joke yet today. Was. 🤣

Weird. This happened to me as well. Thanks for figuring it out. Worked like a charm.