parents out there … clue me in, but isn’t this the pinnacle of irresponsibility, even on a cool day?

What she did is reprehensible, irresponsible, disgusting. That said, letting your baby finish their nap in a climate controlled car used to be very common. You could park down your driveway, leave the car on, bring in your groceries (and even put them away), and then get the baby out, but now able to give him your full attention. It’s not acceptable to do that today. I have spent so many many hours in my driveway letting my baby finish their nap. Apparently if you remove the car seat from the base the angle is more dangerous for them to rest at, but unbuckling her means the end of a nap. I have wished it was safe to leave her in there alone every time and if I was a slightly less informed mother, I probably would. I would say if the car is climate controlled it’s probably the same amount or less dangerous than co sleeping and like half of parents do that (I do not). Parents make a lot of choices.

Yeah and that doesn’t count the time listing the fake jobs, or scheduling the interviews

Wait am I confused on what an inner monologue is? Is it different from a train of thought? Do I just think I have one? Do people have a non metaphorical inner monologue where they physically hear thoughts? What percent are they in control of the thoughts?

If your mind wanders, isn’t that the inner monologue?

Honestly good you got out. I still think about some of the darker parts of the books. The older and more aware I become the sicker they make me feel.

Yeah, or that it wasn’t even sneaky, they just all agreed a couple of those episodes up front would broaden the appeal, and felt confident people would stick around once they got attached to the characters and into the sci-fi

I hear you, but if you want the cleaner to deep clean, you gotta surface clean. Or just pay for twice the time.

Sauerkraut and a bit of ketchup. The bun ends up tasting super sweet in contrast. YUM.

Rover

Yeah! I’m barely able to get mad about this with no information!

I don’t know anything about tech. I don’t want to contribute anything to AI, but I’m afraid I’m going to brick my pixel if I install any of this. Here’s a question. If I let them steal my info, does that hurt other people, or just me?

It’s seems like you’re saying society and a child’s parents are equally responsible for the child. A society is, of course, responsible to it’s individuals, but are you actually saying you think it is a common belief that society and a child’s parents are equally responsible for that child?

Lots of people warning you about alcoholism. Idk. I drink coffee strategically every day, and that’s a drug. But also yes, I sometimes drink alcohol strategically. If I know I’m going to hang out with my sister who I love but disagree with on many many things, i have a drink or two. I try to dull my brain just enough that I am too slow to get offended at every single thing (or just don’t care to, maybe?) in the end, we have a great time, I don’t get all debate-ey with her, and instead just appreciate the good things about her. We don’t see each other that often so I genuinely don’t see any danger from this coping mechanism.

Left is the word that indicates that someone actively left this baby alone. They could have said baby found alone. Baby discovered. Heck, baby alone for days after mother’s death. Baby left absolutely implies it is the doing, or fault, of the person who left the baby. The person who is responsible. Now who will society assume is responsible for a new baby, but the mother?

Even you. You said, hey we could just as easily blame this on society as on the mother! No mention of the absent father.

So many people raved about Downton Abbey, but I couldn’t get through any of it. Extremely dry and also just made me mad about wealth inequality

I thought it was awful until I read the books. They introduce you too fast to too many characters and don’t give you the chance to get interested in any of them. Once I knew all the characters from the books it was fun to watch (though beer helped as well)

Yeah, I also was like dang, I didn’t know wasps were attracted to jalapenos, that is interesting! Some days I am dumb

Is it possible she now feels like, “well we only go out like twice a year, this is a special treat, and I want to get exactly what I want!” (Mostly) Joking on that.

My only suggestion (that you didn’t ask for) is that if she can’t decide between a burger and tenders, maybe you get the burger and agree to split it with her getting the tenders. My husband and I do this (he doesn’t love it so we don’t do it often) but my sister and I always do it, that way we can get something healthy AND something indulgent

Or they just agree to go Dutch 🤷🏼‍♀️ he can just say “I have $30 budgeted for this meal, anything over that needs to come out of your budget”

That was a very thoughtful and validating response. Thank you.

Idk. My birth control triggered treatment resistant depression. Possible it could have happened anyway, but I didn’t struggle with any mental health issues before that. We tried all different kinds of birth control. My doctor certainly didn’t warn me about the risks for any of them.

I wasn’t even trying to be safe for sex, I just had chronic pain. No pain meds ever offered. Just birth control suggested from early in my adolescence. When I finally eventually started birth control it didn’t fix my pain and I ended up leaving college and my life fell off the rails for years. Major depression is no joke.