I aim to be more human. I aim to be less apathetic as a human. Apathy grows, like a tree, and I aim to prune my own.

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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • Definitely no manipulation. She’s already my beneficiary for all things because I lead a life of mostly intentional solitude. It’s a “wait you actually would be on board with my lifestyle, like long term???” Sort of thing. I’m more surprised she’d want to be my… partner in life… than anything… i know she has a lot more friends than I do, but that’s part of the perk.

    She comes from money, she doesn’t need me. She wants to use her family connections to further my goals because they resonate with hers. She wants to do things with me because we agree on what to do and how, that or I’m super naive and fuck it at that point cuz I’m old and let’s see if it helps?

    But I don’t have offspring or anything so it’s sort of whatever. See what happens.



  • Thanks for taking the time to engage with this :) she and I both do want a lifelong mutual benefit partnership. She sees me as a companion perk the same way I see having someone to inherit as a perk (we have very different lives, and that’s ok with both of us)

    Legally bound actually because she’s already set to inherit everything I own if shit goes south. The wedding is just a fun social perk o guess. This would give her guardianship, which I trust her with, and would give her some nice VA perks (I am a vet) whether I die or not.

    We’ve never lived together, but that’s not necessary - I live poorly with people and am aware of that fact, which is why I have plans to section off my house if it ever comes to that. Her cats and mine won’t live well together anyway, just like I don’t live well with other people. But there’s plenty of room and it would be a really minor alteration. We split it off ostensibly for the cats and we both benefit from having an “apartment” in my place.


  • Gosh friend, I appreciate the vote of confidence, but really I can’t pull off that innocent - but not at all ~_^ - cute thing you’ve got going on. It’s just not in my wheelhouse and that’s ok. I’m that tiny 5ft inclusive feminist asshole who lets dudes have it at the slightest hint of misogyny or phobia, that’s my place. I’m pegged as a man more often than most of my mtf friends are, despite appearing fully feminine, because I’m no longer performing my femininity in a way cishet men are ok with. And I like it this way.

    You are rocking it, hun! You remind me, in this pic, of a woman I knew in my early 20s (also mtf, lovely lady!) She went and fixed my car for me by ripping off a part that’s unnecessary, and then put on this adorable geisha gown and we hit the town. Fucking blast, but she pulled off the gown so so much better than I could have because she just had the personality, the vibe, the towering 6 foot presence that makes you go “O.O…. ~_^”

    You have that sort of vibe and I’m here for it!







  • In that case, I’d recommend the sanding, then a wipe down with bleach for the algae, then primer impregnated with a fungicide like Zinsser mold blocking primer (just an epa-approved example, but decent place to start). It’ll form a barrier between the raw degraded plastic and the paint (so anything existing won’t continue to grow), as well as helping prevent molds from growing in the new paint layers.

    Just wait for a really dry day to do it (much as you can, you know, or if you have a garage you can run a dehumidifier in that may work too), and let the paint dry for a long time between coats to prevent any moisture trapping.




  • I’m distro hopping because Ubuntu was perfect for me in basically every way, but I don’t want to be locked to a closed distro…

    I haven’t found anything I like yet, and I don’t have the skills (or motivation) to make core Debian feel the same.

    I’ll probably end up back on Ubuntu, at least for my server machine… it just worked the way I wanted it to, and the ui was lovely for me. Plus it’s stable enough that I can just keep it up indefinitely without issue.


  • Probably best option is to sand it, prime it, and repaint it. Use a UV resistant paint made for plastic or UV resistant top coat, and should be good for several more years.

    The green black gunk is probably algae, maybe with mildew (guessing you live somewhere that gets humid, or at least takes a while to dry from dew) so feel free to wipe it down with bleach or a fungicide after sanding but before you paint it.


  • What if you added a shit-ton of planters and skylights/lights in the huge main hallways (assuming skylights aren’t there already, which they are in a lot of cases), and put windows inward toward your year-round community gardens? The inward-facing walls tend to be glass, so would need to be replaced anyway, and those hallways and congregation spaces are more than wide enough for abundant edible greenery if there aren’t sales kiosks and junk everywhere. You could make a really inviting view entirely indoors.

    Retrofitting the plumbing might be a bit of a problem unless you made everything high efficiency, and just built up the floor a bit, which I think could be a fairly minimal expense by going down the main hallways to existing facilities, with shared plumbing between two units/stores like a duplex. (those cement floors suck anyway, so you’d want it built up at least in the units). That makes it easily accessible for fixing. Or a lot of places have back hallways, you could run exposed plumbing through those and run directly into each unit.

    Keep some of the kitchens in the food court running, open some markets/maker spaces or create hangout/childcare options in the big shops that can’t be converted to housing, and you can employ people and give them access to quality resources with whatever access issues they may have. Plus then you could rip out 90% of the parking lot and plant trees or build more housing or something. That sounds pretty economically sound to me, just not up front. And not profitable for anyone who would spend on it.




  • I think Mozilla has something like this as well (also a subscription).

    I’m of the opinion that, at this point, one of the best infosec things a company could do is include a subscription like this (assuming they are safe and work as intended) for all employees as part of their compensation package, much the way they sometimes provide financial consulting services or gym memberships. Maybe one of the providers will start offering enterprise packages.

    If we could purge large quantities of data on employees, it would be that much harder to use social engineering for hacking. As a bonus, if enough people got themselves purged, it would entirely disrupt the data harvesting and selling models, potentially making them worthless. That would be a huge win.

    But I don’t think many people are going to pay for it themselves. They just won’t care that much. So as a work perk, it incentivizes them to use it by being free.

    I’m not in IT or anything, but my close friend is in security, so it’s something I consider quite a bit.

    Edit to add: obviously I’d rather see it illegal to collect data and sell it and all but that’s not going to happen any time soon, and this could be a lot faster. And if it becomes a business expense, businesses might just push for legislation…