• PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk
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    1 year ago

    I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.

    Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.

    Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.

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      Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.

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          What I’m saying its okay for you to do your own things.

          You don’t need to be around her 24/7 and something that will make you happy and recharged could be good for you both.

          It’s like the oxygen mask. You got to put yours on first before helping others

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          On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she’s a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.

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          Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?