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      1 year ago

      I wonder if the kids of the porn-star dad feel the exact same way? Riddled with the shame and horror of a dad who blasts puss all day long.

      Probably not right? It might even be “cool” to have a motorbike driving porn star dad. Which makes me think that perhaps this isn’t so much “disgust about porn stars” as much as it is “disgust with WOMEN who do porn”.

      I believe that men don’t like the idea of normalising women doing porn, because it makes women sexually confident and aware. “if my girlfriend has slept with insert number here guys, she’ll never stay with me because how can I complete?”.

      It’s a deep seated insecurity thing, possibly because us men put too much weight into sexual performance. If we aren’t THE BEST SEX OF HER LIFE, then we’ve failed. If she’s had sex with that many men, the chances of us being THE BEST reduces.

      So if all men can maintain the societal stigma, hopefully women will refrain from too many partners, and we can keep our egos nice and untested.

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        1 year ago

        That’s a lot of speculation.

        Stigmas aside, statistically people who have lots of sex end up struggling to maintain long lasting relationships… both men and women.

        It’s just not healthy at a certain point.

        I’m also fairly certain most kids would be ashamed of their dad being a porn star as well, especially when they start getting harassed by other kids about it. It would take super human coping skills to deal with it without suffering trauma.

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          I understand most recent studies have suggested that the association between multiple partners and divorce rates is decreasing, possibly due to stigmas around sexual resumés also decreasing.

          If the problem with porn star parents is these kids getting harassed by their peers, wouldn’t that be solved by shifting societal attitudes? Kids used to beat up black school kids, and that’s certainly dropped off since the 30s.

          I imagine that’s the intention of circulating the quote “sex work is real work”, to change perceptions over time.

          I’m sure your argument could be (and likely still is) used to maintain stigmas around homosexuality, especially with the “two dad’s/mums” routine. Like, you couldn’t tell a mixed race couple not to have children because “it would take super human coping skills to deal with it without suffering trauma”.