I have a one on one with my boss every week. He’s a decent guy.
But every week he asks how wedding planning is going and there’s so much more to my life than that and I wonder if he would ask if I was one of the guy engineers in the office. My wedding is next summer.
Ugh. Anyone else have any similar experiences?
I haven’t been in your position, but I suggest telling him something else in your life you’re excited about, and see if he follows your lead and asks you about that, instead. If he’s trying to be friendly, but he only knows one thing about you, that’s what he’s gonna ask about. Also, weddings are a massive deal for most people, so it’s something you can usually get people to talk about. Again, giving him some different bait might make your one-on-ones less annoying.
This is good advice. Thank you. We are still getting to know each other. It’s also the first time I’ve worked somewhere with someone who actually does one on ones. Its so nice to regularly check in.
I’ll try to throw some other things he can ask about. I’m living a pretty boring life at the moment… mental health lull is making anything more than work and sleep challenging. But I’m working on changing that too.