I know you all who have been here longer than 3 days are probably sick of the whole āleaving redditā post trend here, but I figured this would be a good thing to talk about because I didnāt really see it mentioned too much. A lot of people have spoken on here about poor moderation, the whole API debacle, a sort of downward cycle in terms of content quality etc. Plus, when I did bring these things up on my now-deleted reddit account, people mostly resorted to the whole āYou hate capitalism yet you exist in itā argument. I also wrote a sort of summary for this in my application, so whoever read my application doesnāt really need to read this. I basically said the same shit just shorter.
But for me it was just because people got kinda mean? What I mean is that over the past 4 years (probably accentuated by the pandemic), it felt less and less like a place where you could just talk to somebody. With every post I made, it felt like I was in a competition not just in terms of karma but in terms of making something that pleased as many people as possible. Every title needed to be perfect for the grammar people, every fact needed to be perfect for the fact people, everything needed to be as apolitical as possible.
And even with all of these unwritten rules, I came to realize that there really are just two types of posts or comments on reddit. Thereās jokes, and then thereās debates. Jokes ended up being a little more lenient in terms of unwritten rules so I think thatās why thereās so fucking many of them on reddit and itās almost unavoidable to escape the pit of sarcasm in reddit comment sections. But with debates, it felt like with every comment I made, people came in expecting me to either agree with them or refute a point they made. And if I didnāt make āa point,ā I wasnāt contributing. I couldnāt just go āYeah I like Metal Gear Solid V, too,ā I had to go āYeah I like Metal Gear Solid V, too, and the guy youāre responding to is a fucking moron for not doing so,ā or āNo, youāre a dumbass, MGS4 is way better.ā I remember one time I joined into a conversation and somebody actually replied bullying me for not ācontributingā and for posting useless comments, as if I were somehow wasting their time by not trying to argue with them.
And whatās even worse is people just donāt seem to know how to be nice about it? Obviously with the internet, people are going to bully you at some point but on reddit it was just all. the. time. Every post I made, every comment I made there was somebody who didnāt like it and felt the need to tell me about it by insulting me or my family or my cat. Everyone was mean. It felt truly impossible to disagree with a person on reddit without insulting them, because that was the culture that was accepted there.
While I donāt use TikTok, I ended up stumbling upon this series of them by way of YouTube Shorts called āAverage Redditorā¦ā by The Slappable Jerk and I really think they perfectly encapsulate what itās like to browse reddit, and I hate that it took me so long to realize thatās what my experience was like. I kept watching them and going āNah, nobodyās like that,ā but then the more I used reddit the more I realized āYeah, itās kind of everybody including myself.ā As you can see in the video I linked, the guy is either joking or debating and heās not nice about either one, and frankly thatās kind of how every single one of my reddit experiences has been so far. I canāt really remember the last time anybody has been nice to me on reddit. Maybe thatās my fault and my brain is suppressing me from realizing it, but I do think itās a problem inherent in the system if Iām seeing other people doing it to each other also.
I got banned from reddit as a whole a week ago for reporting a guy for calling me a āspastic loserā after getting angry when another guy got angry for me not reading some deeper meanings in his 1 sentence post. I think that whole really weird run-on sentence should tell you all you need to know about my reddit experience these past few years. Funnily enough despite it breaking the subredditās rules against insults, it was āreport abuse.ā
I ended up hearing about Lemmy while browsing today and I deleted my account just now. I saw probably a couple dozen posts at most. It seems kinda slow here. But you know what I didnāt see at all? People fighting. Calling each other names. Insulting each other. I saw debates and arguments but I straight up didnāt see the same kind of debates and arguments that I saw on reddit. On Reddit I could probably go 3 or 4 posts without that happening, but even posts of 12 comments will always have rude jerks on them. Now Iām still new here, and I have heard that there are toxic and xenophobic instances of Lemmy that are on massive blocklists, but Beehaw so far has been nothing short of just plain joyful. Itās so wonderful to see people online just. talking. to each other. And while I see people swearing (I did it myself in this post), it really just havenāt seen it directed at other users on here. On reddit it seems like thereās such a big culture of if youāre gonna insult somebody you go for the deepest-cut insult possible. On here I just havenāt seen that.
TL;DR: People on reddit are mean. Beehaw (and some other instances of Lemmy I signed up for) are far from that.
/rant
Beehaw requires an application to join. No, it wasnāt an essay. They just asked me three questions, and I wrote about a paragraph (5 sentences or so) for each question. This is basically what I wrote for the first two questions, just with a lot more words.
In the FAQ for beehaw they said if you donāt write enough of a response then you wonāt be let in, but I was let in within about 10 minutes of making it, so I guess 5 sentences was what they were looking for.
Thatās really interesting and wasnāt my experience at all. I wonder what other requirements are out there for different instances?
Lemmy.world just has a single question, asking why you wanted to join. I think the purpose is primarily to prevent automated account creation for bots. I gave a 3 sentence answer and was admitted within a few minutes.
Lemmy.World has one too now? That was pretty quick I saw the other day a post asking if we shouldnāt have that because of bots. Lemmy.world is growing really fast!
Oh it had a question when I joined 5 days ago, but I guess they got rid of it since then. Iām guessing manual approval became unsustainable when 8k people joined in like 4 days haha
Yea, I joined 3 days ago so that could be it haha