• calculuschild@vlemmy.net
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    1 year ago

    Conversations with my spouse are almost entirely of the following:

    1. planning and coordinating
    2. infodumping
    3. little love phrases (“I love you.” “You are a good wife.” “Come give me a kiss.”)
    4. listening silently while my wife shares the latest gossip and about her day
    5. spontaneous deep conversations

    I love her.

  • OptimsticDolphin@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    That would be absoloutley ideal for me, there is not much worse than when people get annoyed I dont do the small talk before getting to the main point

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOPM
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      1 year ago

      I’m 100% committed to the idea of going to a local protest with a sign that reads “End Small Talk”. I don’t really care what the protest is about, just waiting for things to pop off.

  • MaximumOverflow
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    1 year ago

    It doesn’t have to be anything profound. Talking about our hobbies and stuff like that is good enough. Just don’t force me to talk about how cloudy today was for half an hour, please…

  • MadgePickles@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    How is it meaningful to have neverending scripts of “hey how are you” “I’m good how are you” “good thanks. How was your day?” “It was good how was yours?” “It was alright thanks.” I would be happy to never ever ever answer those questions again. I’ll tell you how I’m feeling when I have something to say about it and I’ll talk you about something that happened during my day if I want to. I expect the same from you. I’m also happy to just sit near you in silence. Watch something together or do our own thing.

    • cam_i_am@lemmy.world
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      My wife and I have a midpoint that works for us, which is asking those questions, but sincerely.

      When ask how she is, or how her day was, I genuinely want to know. And her answer can include as much or as little detail as she feels like sharing. And the reverse is true too.