I’ve always found it odd when I hear people say this. I’m never quite sure how I’m supposed to take it. I live alone. I have like zero responsibilities outside of work. So in that regard, every single day I do “something nice” for myself. I get to eat whatever I want, watch whatever I want on TV, etc.

One “argument” I’ve heard that this is instead supposed to mean to like exercise or something, but I exercise is very unpleasant to me. I committed to consistent running for over a year and never enjoyed it lol. I feel similarly about all forms of exercise.

I dunno. What am I missing here? Is telling people to do something nice for themselves reserved for people with heavy responsibilities like children and such? Because I don’t understand why people would tell me to do that to myself or how I am supposed to apply that. Existing with high freedom and low responsibilities seems pretty nice to myself so I don’t get it.

Am I just dumb lol?

  • Voroxpete@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I mean, I hate to say it but “I don’t really like anything” is basically textbook depression.

    There’s a common misconception that depression means being sad. That’s generally not the case. Depression often manifests as a lack of any strong emotions, happy or sad. It’s the absence of intense feeling, which is exactly what you’re describing.

    I’m not trying to diagnose a stranger based on one post on the internet, you know your context, I don’t. But for what it’s worth, life is supposed to contain joy, no matter what kind of person you are. If you truly feel like it doesn’t, you should probably talk to someone. Maybe try to find out what you’re missing.

    • dingus@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      I don’t lack emotions…the opposite really! I have incredibly intense, overpowering emotions which 90% of the time turn negative. It’s very distressing and often I wish I didn’t feel them. I have the capacity to be happy and sometimes am very happy.

      I just lack passion, not emotions! You’d think that doesn’t really correlate, but it’s hard to explain. My powerful emotions don’t motivate me to do anything in particular. I am easily bored of activities in general.

      Sometimes my emotions motivate me to listen to songs which actually just incredibly intensify the powerful emotions that I feel. Feeling songs can be such an intense experience to me. But that is not always helpful when the emotion is negative!

      In regards to the depression thing, I tried an SSRI with the guidance of a provider recently actually. Was on it for 5-6 months and still having extreme emotions so I’m switching to another class of med to see if it helps lol.