There was a post on r/leftwingmaleadvocates which asked, “Are incels bad?” One of the comments said the following:

“Yea problem is dating is so rigged with the apps and no cultural celebration/rolls for men to be fulfilled and desirable, that about 80% of guys probably fall into the category of incel these days. There are actually whole countries like Japan or China where MOST men are permanently single and have no hope of ever getting a partner or relationship. Feminism has been IMMENSELY vindictive and bigoted culturally, but there are also big socioeconomic factors at play here. There are literally tens of millions of guys out there that could be considered incel, and even if your not an incel dating is still extremely difficult which is just as much a problem. I think the incel label is almost like the label ‘thug’. It takes a social issue and crushes you by making it a -you- thing. Oh you say a lot of women/society don’t even treat you as human, hmmm sounds like there must be something wrong with YOU, work harder and pull yourself up by the bootstraps!”

I replied to the comment by saying that 80% of men are not incels. In public, I have seen average looking men with girlfriends. In my experience, what this Redditor said is not true. I was downvoted for saying that. I disagree with this comment because it seems to be “black-pilled.”

There was also a post on r/mensrights which was about a guy sharing his personal experience. He said he was able to get laid while being broke. He said women don’t care about money much. He was also downvoted.

Some MRAs (who probably have trouble dating) seem to have black-pilled beliefs. The black-pill says if a man isn’t in the top 20% he is doomed. He won’t be able to get casual sex or a girlfriend. Some take it to a more extreme level and say a man has to be 6 ft tall, have a 6 figure income, 6 pack abs, and a 6 inch penis.

The black-pill is a derivative of the red-pill, but it has less nuance. Rollo Tomassi is supposed to be the inventor of the red-pill. In one of his videos he said, women are attracted to 20% of men. The 20% is subjective for each woman. He never said 20% of men sleep with 80% of women. Someone misunderstood what he said and it spread throughout the internet.

By saying 20%, it means women are pickier than men. Maybe some women think less than 20% are attractive, and some think more than 20%. It’s not an exact 20%. A man can be in the 20% (attractive) for one woman and be in the unattractive category for another.

Some people say 80% of women swipe right on 20% of men on Tinder. I don’t know how true that is. I haven’t read the data on it. Black-pillers claim this is true.

In my opinion, average men are not doomed. I think these black pilled beliefs are harmful to the men who hold them.