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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/seabirdshallow on 2023-09-04 16:48:38.
I(28f) am a single mother to a 5 year old daughter. I spend the majority of my time with her and usually bring her along to most things I go to. She’s a good and peaceful kid. On Friday I went on an overnight getaway. I hadn’t done anything by myself in three months.
My parents are very staunchly against anyone not in our family babysitting/watching their grand daughter. But as a single mom, it’s simply not possible. I work at a daycare center so I am with her pretty much all day. But when she starts school very soon its just something that will end up happening. If I’ve ever hired a baby sitter they are extremely upset.
I had this planned out 2 weeks in advance and asked my parents first thing if they could watch my daughter overnight. They said they were busy and would be seeing a stand up comedian and probably a movie over the weekend. So I asked my brother and sister and both of them were busy as well. So I asked my best friend(30f) who also has kids. I trust her. Also my kid is friends with her kids.
Well the day came and my parents were texting and calling. I was at work and couldn’t answer. After work I called back and they were like “so who is watching her?” They had called/texted my siblings to see if they were going to watch her. I told my parents that my best friend is watching her. This caused them to flip out saying that you can’t leave her with strangers. I said that this “stranger” is my best friend.
They realized I wasn’t budging and dropped it. Then when I was on the way to the getaway. I get a text from my mom saying “we’re picking her up, thanks for forcing us to do this.” So they cancelled their plans and picked up my daughter and watched her until I got back.
Sounds like you need to have a discussion with your parents and further explain your side of who you believe is capable of watching your daughter.
In the end, it’s not their call; it’s yours.