I find it so hard to find anyone compatible. I’m basically slowing down my dating efforts because it just makes me miserable. Are there any success stories out there? Common personality types that pair surprisingly well? Anything?

  • torpak@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I (AuDHD diagnosed last year) am very glad that I met my wife (NT as far as we know) in the 90s. I think that was a more forgiving time. Since i’m completely clueless in regards to flirting, non verbal signals and reading between the lines, my (now) wife had to basically ask me to kiss her for me to realize that she might be interested in me. So I can’t really give advice other than: be friendly and wait for the rigth person to choose you. Regarding personality types I can say that I’m often indecisive and tend to overthink things while my wife is very practical and a bit dominant. It works rather well for us.

      • tormeh@discuss.tchncs.deOPEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        Flirting, like modern language, is so ambiguous that it’s a confusing mess for me to navigate.

        You’re so real for this. I feel you. Absolutely bussin comment. But fr I absolutely love silly language, so this isn’t me 😅Still awful at flirting, though.

        Only tip I can give (the deaf leading the blind, lol) is disregard what is said and focus on body language and time usage. Is someone spending time with you? How far apart from you do they like to stand? What direction do their feet point?