Got to admitāI love weddings. Iām sentimental like that.
I remember mineābest day of my life. I remember seeing my wife in her dress. Oh my God, she was the prettiest. Our eyes met, and man, I cried. Yeah, I cried. I admit it. And if I canāt cry on my wedding day, well, screw you guys. I deserved to cry out of happiness.
Canāt say itās been peaches and cream every day since. Weāre human. We deal with the drudgeries of lifeāraising a kid, keeping a home. But not a day goes by that I regret it. My wife has been one of the most giving, intelligent, and loyal friends Iāve ever had. And yeah, she is a friend. My best friend.
One of the worst things about being married is knowing that eventually, one of us wonāt be. Either she or I will go first. I think about that all the time.
But I hope I have many years left with herāat least enough to take a few trips, watch a few movies, have a few karaoke sessions with my babe. Oh, and she has to introduce me to something I havenāt eaten before. Thatās important.
But the big thing for me? I want to be healthy and fit enough to be her mixed doubles partner in a badminton tournament. Thatās super important to her, and after almost 18 years together, Iām still not good enough. But someday.
Iām in the gym all the timeālifting weights, running, doing everything I can to stay healthy. Believe me, I had to work to get back into shape. It was scary for a little bit, but my blood pressure is now optimal. Iām lifting 225 poundsāeight reps, three setsāso I think Iāll be good enough eventually to play a freaking doubles tournament with my wife, win some games, and make her proud.
Ideally, Iād love to win a tournament, but hey, Iāve got to set my expectations, right? Iām terrible at badminton. I play once a weekāat least five gamesāand sheās so much better than me. But itāll be worth it.
This is the life I signed up for. The life Iāve been building. And yeahāI love my wife. Sheās the best. My wedding was the best day of my life, only rivaled by the birth of my child. Ever since then, I feel like Iāve been taking victory laps. And itās all been worth it.
Photo credit: Kate Harrison
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Beautiful. A widow once told me that only one will remain to pay the price of love with pain. When I was widowed, I fully understood that.