• fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    Because marriages and weddings are to show the community you’re together. That’s the whole point. Some people are a bit more extrovert about it than others, as in all things.

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      Yeah but community pressure shouldn’t factor into the equation when making the decison

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        3 days ago

        Chances are, they’ve talked about it beforehand and it’s only a matter of making the decision public…

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          3 days ago

          Yes, but just like how I might say I want a cup of tea later, only for later to come and I realise that I dont actually want the tea after all, I should be able to refuse without feeling pressured to conform because of the expecting audience

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            Well, I’m hoping, they also talked about whether she wants a public proposal. If she told him to ask her with a megaphone, whether she wants tea, then she’s hopefully sure enough. Well, and it’s not either like she’ll have to empty that cup of tea right then and there. There’s still plenty ways to back out, if she starts doubting herself.

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        Yeah except people do care about this.

        Not me though!

        Unless others also care about this? In which case yeah I agree.