I’ve always wondered this. Some people have trouble with dating because they try to go for people out of their league who don’t like them back. But society also tells us that we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Like for example, no one makes a “choice” to be gay.

So what happens when you’re only attracted to those out of their league that will never ever like them back?

Do the people with this issue still date? But when they date, they lie to their partner that they are into them? I have been on a couple of dates with someone I wasn’t into before. It make me incredibly guilty and dishonest that I did not like them back.

Curious as to the experience/thoughts of others.

Apologies if this is the wrong community. I will remove on request. Thanks.

  • MNByChoice@midwest.social
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    14 hours ago

    I am afraid you are misunderstanding me.

    There is no way to control who you are attracted to. You control do fully control what you act on.

    You could avoid looking at “supermodels”. Maybe that will help.

    If you want to date supermodels, then improve yourself enough they want to date you. If that is not possible, then consider getting professional psychiatric help for this “supermodel” thing.

    Regular people should improve themselves. That is all they can do.