I transitioned ages ago and I’m recently out of a long term relationship. I’ve been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify “masc for masc” all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I’ve been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn’t, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?

USA if it helps.

    • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      12 days ago

      You’re in luck, hello!

      Jokes aside, I had more luck on OKC than Grindr. FWIW bi dudes can still be fruity, case in point again, hello, but as someone who also finds incredibly flamboyant men a little grating to date, I think you might have better luck.

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        12 days ago

        Tried OKC and had zero luck. I’m scared of Grindr - I don’t do hookups so it doesn’t seem like a good fit. But if you’re a Cis guy, hmu 😂

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          Grindr can be a little intimidating, I hear ya, but yah, it’s not really great for finding long term dating relationships versus short flings and hookups. I’m seeing someone, but I’m always happy to make new friends if ya wanna send me a chat!