I am! But I left 4-5 other instances before finally settling. Blahaj especially actually welcomed HB at one point because “trans solidarity”, which opened the door to mass harassment. …again. I was so absolutely disappointed because I was like “hey…don’t” and was basically told off.
“Oh you can block them if you don’t like it! It’s up to the individual!” I’m sure that’s fine if you’re tough & completely mentally stable, but these people genuinely triggered my PTSD, which had not been a thing that had happened to me in years. It left me and my faith in this whole thing very very shaken.
That aside, I think sopuli only has ML unblocked because it has such large tech communities.
I really really really loved Beehaw, too, but after their talk about moving away from Lemmy, I scrambled to find another home.
An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.
I am! But I left 4-5 other instances before finally settling. Blahaj especially actually welcomed HB at one point because “trans solidarity”, which opened the door to mass harassment. …again. I was so absolutely disappointed because I was like “hey…don’t” and was basically told off.
“Oh you can block them if you don’t like it! It’s up to the individual!” I’m sure that’s fine if you’re tough & completely mentally stable, but these people genuinely triggered my PTSD, which had not been a thing that had happened to me in years. It left me and my faith in this whole thing very very shaken.
That aside, I think sopuli only has ML unblocked because it has such large tech communities.
I really really really loved Beehaw, too, but after their talk about moving away from Lemmy, I scrambled to find another home.
An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.
Indeed, I think I’ll just recommend lemmy.cafe as the safe recommendation from now on