• SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    21 days ago

    I think this was written by someone who isn’t comfortable with extended periods of silence with their partner.

    My wife and I barely speak or communicate nonverbally for hours sometimes, then talk at great length other times. We always give each other an opportunity to talk about our day or whatever else is important, but we don’t talk about trivial things simply for the sake of talking. We’re comfortable with silence.

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      21 days ago

      Idk I took it more to mean “wow I don’t want to start a deep, thoughtful conversation the moment I get home from work let me relax for a minute” while at the same time still wanting to talk to your partner. But I guess it’s up to reader interpretation and I do seem to be in the minority here.

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        21 days ago

        You’re not alone. I think people might be projecting their own reasons for liking/disliking smalltalk into this tweet.

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          21 days ago

          I just feel like a lot of people here are defining “small talk” as “a conversation that I don’t want to have” rather than any meaningful definition.

          I would consider stepping outside in the morning with your partner and stating “oh wow it’s such a nice day today” to be small talk. It’s a conversation without an end goal, sure, but I don’t think it’s as worthless as people are making it out to be.

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            21 days ago

            Yeah, like, obviously if you define it as something like that you don’t like that, but I don’t think that’s how everyone defines it.