• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I’d say it’s okay to show someone your child’s genitalia when they’ve already seen it anyway.

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      Yep, my wife has seen my little baby wiener. The awkward teenage pictures were far more embarrassing though. Hers are buried in a hoarder house so I might never get to see her embarrassing school band photos.

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        I wouldn’t want to see naked photos of a significant other as a minor, but maybe that’s just me.

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          Normal people don’t view children as sexual beings, so their junk just isn’t any different than their foot. Parents especially. I see my daughter’s vagina several times a day, frequently covered in poop. It doesn’t register any differently than any other part of her that needs cleaning.

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            You’re still weird if you make a point of showing photos of it to someone though.

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          It’s everyone who isn’t a weirdo

          This thread is giving me the ick

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            Yeah, definitely. At best they’re arguing tooth and nail for embarrassing their child in front of their partner, if not outright CP.

            Major ick.

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        Right? All you’re doing is saying, “when I saw it last, it was a lot smaller than when you saw it.”

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      NO IT IS NOT

      Always get the consent of the now adult that was in the picture as a child or don’t take the picture if they are still a child

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      Seeing someone naked as an adult isn’t the same thing as seeing them naked as a minor.

      You do see that, right?

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        Dude, this has been a traditional way for parents to embarrass their adult children in front of their partner for decades. My wife has seen my naked baby pictures without my parents even showing them to her. And I’ve seen hers. What’s the big deal? It’s not like either of us found them sexy.

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          Chopping part of your child’s dick off has also been traditional for decades, that’s a very poor justification for that behaviour.

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          it’s still weird (source, i have parents), at least ask your daughter for consent first.

          I’d consider it to be a breach of my privacy otherwise.

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            They’re baby pictures. We’re not talking about something erotic here. Naked babies are not some sort of scandalous thing. In most cultures, they’re normal.

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              i didn’t take them and i didn’t consent to them existing either. Neither did i consent to them being shown to anybody.

              Naked humans are also normal, yet we still wear clothes. babies included, weirdly enough.

              At what point does “naked baby photos” turn to “naked children photos” is my question.

              how about this. You can have your naked baby photos, you just also have to be in the photo and naked as well.

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                i didn’t take them and i didn’t consent to them existing either. Neither did i consent to them being shown to anybody.

                Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

                You can have your naked baby photos, you just also have to be in the photo and naked as well.

                I’m not embarrassed by my body and if that’s what her partner really wants to see, I don’t care.

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                  Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

                  This is actually solid advice, especially as far as social media is concerned.

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                    We’re not talking about social media, we’re talking about the significant other of my child. Or even relatives. I didn’t get my daughter’s permission to take her photo when she was a baby, so I shouldn’t have sent a photo to my father on the other side of the country based on this reasoning.

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                  Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

                  based on that reasoning i shouldnt expose my child to the visual perception of other people who exist outside in the chance that one of them non consensually perceives my child.

                  You wouldn’t expose your child naked in public, why would you expose them naked on picture?

                  I’m not embarrassed by my body and if that’s what her partner really wants to see, I don’t care.

                  that’s great, the implication there is that you’re still showing it to other people, and if we’re talking family and friends, i don’t know many people that would want that.

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                    You wouldn’t expose your child naked in public,

                    How exactly do you think someone changes a diaper at a park?

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              Taking photos of naked children isn’t, and shouldn’t, be normal in any culture I’m familiar with, and you definitely shouldn’t be showing them to anyone.

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                Well you should get familiar with Finnish culture and then start berating the Finnish guy who chimed in and said it was totally normal.

                You know what an immoral, shithole country Finland is though.

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                    It’s not my fault that you reply to all of my comments and don’t bother reading other people’s. It’s right there for you to read.

                    When are you going to contact lemmy.world admin to have me reported to the authorities for child abuse and the possession of child pornography?

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              DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT CONSENT IS

              YOU LEARN IT AT SCHOOL, ITS VERY IMPORTANT

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          Today I learned flying squid is okay with this kind of thing and that’s fucked up

          It’s a violation of privacy & consent

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          You do understand that to cultures where this isnt the norm, it sounds ridiculous to show naked pictures of your child when they were an infant to, well anyone?

          It being a tradition has no bearing on it being awful or not. Circumcision is a tradition.

          I’m sure you can find a more modern way to embarrass your child without resorting to CP?

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            Which cultures? And why do they get to decide what is right and what is wrong?

            Also, naked photos of children are not child porn. Do you think they come out of the womb with clothes on?

            I had to clean shit out of my daughter’s vagina regularly when I changed her diapers. Was that, similarly, sexual assault?

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              I personally have no use for pictures of baby genitals, but you really do huh? It even makes you upset we want to take away your baby genital pictures huh?

              Is this some perverse form of individualism?

              Edit: if you took a picture of you cleaning your daughters vagina out, and showed someone, yes that would be child porn and child abuse.

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                Again- they don’t come out of the womb with clothes on. Are parents not supposed to take a picture of their newly-born child or should they put a fig leaf on them?

                I’ve asked several times- if this is child pornography, find me an example of someone getting in legal trouble for having a naked photo of their own baby on their phone. One person.

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                  Were you even in the room with your newborns? Both of mine were moved to a table, cleaned up, and swaddled. I would have had to literally interrupt them to take a genital picture of them.

                  But I guess where you live, they pause first and ask if you want a full naked body shot? Cool tradition, I know you love those.

                  I’m sure noone has been in trouble for ONLY having their naked child’s pictures on their phone, but I’m sure those pictures have ended up in CP collections. I’m sure you have perfect opsec though so its fine.

                  Legality as side, since its not the law preventing me from abusing children anyways, I’m arguing that its morally wrong. Plenty of immoral actions are legal from my perspective.

                  Why does your perspective need baby genitals to be featured again?

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                    No one paused anything. My wife gave my mother-in-law a camera and she took a picture because my wife asked her to. Then we sent that picture to my father and my mother who was on a layover in an airport.

                    I assume no one masturbated to it.

                    And who is featuring them? Certainly not me. Have I shown them to you? No. And i wouldn’t.