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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 on 2024-06-23 04:00:02+00:00.

I am not The OOP, OOP is u/MyKeysWereStolen

My MIL stole my collection of vintage skeleton keys to sell at pawn and buy herself a new phone

Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole, EntitledPeople and OOP’s own page

Thank you to u/queenlegolas & u/e_l_r for suggesting this BoRU

Thanks to u/soayherder u/queenlegolas u/Choice_Evidence1983 u/LucyAriaRose u/e_l_r u/Phoenix44424 u/Elfich47 u/Larabeaglegal u/jus256 u/Zagadee u/Odd-Willingness-8195 u/zooted_unicorn for letting me know this updated

EDITOR’S NOTE: Since the posts were getting too large to put onto 1 post, TLDR’s have been given to past posts. Previous BoRUs are linked for anyone wanting to read the saga completed so far

BoRU 1 

BoRU 2

OOP originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole but I’m using the EntitledPeople posts as they have more details and information

TRIGGER WARNING: theft, emotional abuse and manipulation, verbal abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting

Original Post  Feb 7, 2024

OOP’ entitled hoarding MIL broke into his home and stole his collection of vintage keys so she could buy a new phone.

Update 1  Feb 8, 2024

OOP gets his MIL to confess and has her arrested. Collection returned to OOP days later.

Discovered MIL sold collection to pawn shop for $300.

OOP’s wife bails out her mother. Marriage is over.

Here’s some pics of part of my collection  Feb 3, 2024

6 Pictures of a variety if old keys

Update 2 - Had my wife served for divorce since she sided with her key stealing entitled mother  Feb 9, 2024

OOP has locks changed, marriage disintegrated, lawyers hired and divorce looming. Wife served papers at work.

The reason why I’m so broken and vindictive now  Feb 11, 2024

OOP reflects on his marriage, deep thoughts and anger come to the surface. Regrets having wife served at work, that went too far.

Wifey broke her silence, tried to seduce me, and is scrambling to find an apartment now  Feb 24, 2024

OOP’s wife tries to be all he wanted, 50s housewife who cooks and initiates sex. OOP turns his wife down. Wife hits the bottle hard.

Wife on hands and knees begging for a second chance. OOP refuses! Looks forward to moving out and riding a bike again.

To those who think they know me, Plus small update  Feb 26, 2024

OOP fires back at commenters for calling him an idiot for divorcing his wife over keys, having his MIL arrested. Fires back, and doubles down.

NEW UPDATES

Update: My key stealing crazy MIL passed away. And it’s kinda my fault  June 10, 2024

I have decided I will no longer be referring to my soon to be ex-wife as Wifey. Even that feels wrong now. So I’ll just be saying STBEXW instead.

A few months ago I anonymously reported my MIL as a serious hoarder. Someone here commented I should report my MIL’s hoarding to the Fire Marshal, and at the time I decided to do it because I was angry and wanted to get back at her for stealing my collection from me, and making my life hell. MIL had been building a hoard in her house since my wife was a teenager. The house was filled nearly to the brim with rotten garbage, and was rodent infested. I’ve actually seen rats there. I made a call to the city from a number I googled.

At first I thought nothing came of it as weeks went by. But I guess someone looked into it, because MIL’s house was given an inspection. The house was found to be in even worse shape than I thought. It was not only a serious fire hazard to itself and everything around it, and rodent infested. There were also some exposed electrical wires, a roof leak that’s gone unfixed for years that caused bad rot damage and black mold. The outside of the house didn’t look that bad, and it was in a neighborhood full of old houses that looked similar. Which is likely why no one reported it till I did.

My STBEXW figured out it was me who reported her mother, what with the timing and all. She came home and ranted to me about all the things her mother told her the inspector found, and how her mother was likely to lose her house now. But it was only a matter of time before something like that happened. If I didn’t report her mother, someone else eventually would have. STBEX screamed at me that I was a horrible deceitful person. I asked her if she wanted to be the pot or the kettle, then reminded her of all the reasons why we were separating.

I ended up losing my cool and ranted at her saying that her enabling of her mother caused this. Her acting like her mother stealing my irreplaceable skeleton key collection I’ve spent a decade building wasn’t important caused this. And her selfish unilateral decision making and bratty behavior ever since we got married caused this. Couples are supposed to make decisions together. Instead she just kept making them for us both without even asking my input. So I made a unilateral decision of my own for once and reported her mother’s hoarding. Which needed to be reported anyway because it’s a danger to her and the people around her.

I told STBEXW I was long sick of just sucking it all up all the time and just letting things pass while they acted like I was the bad guy and walked all over me. Her mother would get nothing more from me. And maybe she wouldn’t be as crazy once she’s no longer living in a house filled with fumes of rotten garbage, rodent excrement, and black freaking mold! STBEXW just walked away sniffling and cursing me. Yeah, I know I went too far. I’d been reduced to being just as petty as her. I made that call because I was angry. But I had no choice but to stand by that decision after I’d done it.

MIL ended up demanding my STBEXW foot the cost of cleaning and restoring the house. But she couldn’t afford it. From what I heard, MIL went off on her with her demands, and told her to get the money any way she could. Even demanding I pay for it since I was the one who reported the house. She even said to sue me. But STBEXW told her it wouldn’t work. The house was in exceedingly poor shape. Rotten garbage, exposed wires, roof leaks, rot and black mold. No one should be living in that.

When STBEXW tried to tell her mother she couldn’t afford pay for the house to be cleaned and renovated, her mother actually attacked her like a wild animal. She hit and scratched her multiple times, and tried to pull her hair out. That’s when it happened. MIL had a heart attack on the spot. Going ape on her daughter must have triggered it. STBEX called 911 while looking for aspirin in the house. But by the time help had arrived, her mother had expired.

STBEXW came home with a police officer in tow for some reason, and was absolutely mad screaming at me about what just happened to her mother. She said this was all my fault. And in all of her ranting, I found out her mother had a weak heart. It’s the real reason why she was on disability. The officer had to separate STBEXW from me, and she fell onto the couch sobbing. I hated MIL with a passion. But I wasn’t trying to end her life! I still feel great guilt over this.

From what the police officer said, and from what my STBEXW said, I pieced the story together, and later typed it out. But just couldn’t bring myself to post it. I was still wracked with guilt. And just had to take a serious break from Reddit.

That evening when I found out my MIL had passed away, STBEXW managed to calm down long enough to speak to the police officer more clearly about what happened. But she also kept shifting between blaming herself and blaming me. I asked her from across the room why I was never told about her mother’s heart condition. And she yelled it was none of my damn business. But it explains why MIL used to dramatically put her hand on her chest and cry so many times when she wasn’t getting her way.

My STBEXW ended up going crazy in the bathroom she’d been using since we started sleeping separately. She asked the police officer for a moment to herself, then just went crazy after shutting the door. She came out a few minutes later looking angry, but calm. Then told me I was cleaning that mess up. She pack…

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  • Spacehooks@reddthat.comMEnglish
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    5 months ago

    My Kent Ridgeland Bike June 13, 2024

    OOP shows 2 pitures of his bike

    Just thought since I posted pics of some of my Skeleton Key collection a while back, I’d do the same with my bike.

    Update to key stealing MIL saga. My STBEXW got in contact with my mother that I went NC from a long time ago. June 16, 2024

    To clarify since some people didn’t know previously, this stuff all happened months ago. Which is why I made three posts so quickly.

    After the social media incident, STBEXW tried one last desperate measure to get back at me, Which was to track down my mother that I was NC with. She probably found her through face book, because I know my mother has an active page there. My STBEXW knew exactly why I’m NC with this woman. I told her for years the things my narcissist mother did to me. But she went to see her anyway. Either she was looking for a replacement maternal figure, or she just did it entirely to spite me. Or maybe even both. Either way we all know she’s petty AF.

    Despite being years NC, my mother wasn’t far away. I never really moved far from where I was raised. And my STBEXW fed my mother a very embellished sob story. I got a call from a number I didn’t recognize, and it turned out to be my mother. First words out of her mouth were “HOW COULD YOU!!”. She wouldn’t even give me time to speak by just saying “I DON’T WANT TO HEAR YOUR EXCUSES”. Then she went on a rant about the lies STBEXW told her. I just ended the call about half-way through said rant, and then blocked the number. I remember thinking to myself at the time “Just great! The two people I hate most in this world are now banding together!”

    STBEXW also figured out where I live. I don’t know how. But it doesn’t really matter anymore. What did matter was she showed up WITH MY GOD DAMN MOTHER! This woman was just as bad as I remembered her, except now she has bleach blonde hair. She still dressed as if in denial about her age, and was still judgmental and narcissistic. But the moment she started yelling at me, I snapped and lost it on her and STBEXW. I started ranting about all the stuff STBEXW and her mother had put me through, and how I wasn’t surprised that my own crazy mother would side with a toxic liar like her without even questioning what my half of the story was. I ended up ranting about a whole lot of the stuff that happened. And for once, my mother looked damn scared of me, and didn’t even try to counter.

    I don’t know how long I was ranting at them. It was just wordvomit and yellsplaining to the point I almost mentally checked out while my mouth did the work. But I told my mother all about the things my STBEXW and MIL did to me. About the theft of my collection, about MIL’s hoarding and the condition of her house, about how she and STBEXW trapped me in a fake marriage, how STBEXW admitted to trying to babytrap me, and then bringing my own mother over to try and stick it to me. I looked over at STBEXW and said if her big plan was thinking my mother had any power over me, she was even dumber than I thought. And yeah, I ranted about how STBEXW thought my skeleton key collection was worthless. And exactly how and why it wasn’t.

    Police eventually showed up because a neighbor had called them. I had a CCTV camera going inside my apartment watching the door. And it saw enough. So there was video proof I never laid a finger on either of them at least. The police broke things up and escorted STBEXW and mother away. The cops thought I was the bad guy at first. A grown man yelling at two cowering women didn’t exactly look good. But they took the time to listen to me, and I showed them the camera footage. My mother looked downright scared of the cops, and didn’t even want to talk to them. And STBEXW knew exactly what I’d do if she lied to them. So they fessed up as to why they were there. But claimed that giving me a talking to was all they’d intended to do. Riiiiight. And Zeus didn’t throw lightning. Oh wait, he did! Who knows what those two would have tried, were it not for the police and my temper.

    No one was arrested. But I made it clear I didn’t want my mother or STBEXW coming back. Right after they left, I went to the police station and filled out a report on the incident for a paper trail, in case of future stalking. Even though one of the officers tried to tell me that was too much for the situation when all they did was show up at my door. They also seemed to take offence to my making a report against my mother and STBEXW. I told him that he didn’t know those people, and they were relentless narcissists. After making the report, I called up my best friend and told him what happened. He asked if I wanted to go riding to clear my head. And I said yes. And we went out bike riding till our legs were numb.

    The next day I texted my mother from the number she’d called me from, and explained some things in detail. And I even sent screenshots of proof I had on some things. I made sure to do all this in text for two reasons. 1: So I wouldn’t have to actually hear her voice. And 2: because I could screenshot all the texts and give them to my lawyer for my divorce case against STBEXW. My mother said STBEXW told her a very different story that I had been abusive in various ways. I told my mother she was free to have a relationship with STBEXW. But I wanted nothing to do with either of them. And I’ll call the police if either of them show up at my apartment, or any future one I may be living in ever again. She did not message me back for several days. I also sent messages about what happened to other relatives and asked they be passed around just in case STBEXW went crying to them too. Which I guess she was smart enough not to bother doing, because none of them heard a peep from her.

    STBEXW ended up having a huge fight with my mother, in which my mother kicked her out. My mother finally texted me back and said she wasn’t willing to risk staying on STBEXW’s side when it meant being dragged into the crossfire. Then she gave me a short sort-of-apology. Which I accepted as good enough, because getting my mother to apologize for anything is like pulling teeth. I stated I still don’t want a relationship with her because I know she still defends the way she raised me. She told me she understands, and then said to have a nice life somewhat passive-aggressively. Then I re-blocked the number.

    STBEXW has not yet retained a lawyer for our divorce, then or now. I’m pretty sure she realizes she can’t win with all of the evidence I have against her. Every dumb thing she did gave my lawyer more ammunition to work with. She hasn’t been fighting back much at all. Not that there’s anything to fight over. Our formerly shared bank account and rented house were our only joint assets. But I took my name off the account, and we both moved out of the house. My credit is locked down, I have cameras, and I’m taking no BS from her. I think she may be scared of me now. Not long before I started posting again, she’d moved out of the state too. She apparently got a job transfer, and notified my lawyer she was leaving, and where she was going. But she’ll be back whenever she needs to appear in court. So unless something else crazy happens, I won’t be needing to update again until after the divorce.

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