• Null User Object@programming.dev
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    19 days ago

    That attitude/idea can lead to blaming the marginalized group for their own victimhood.

    Probably a dumb question, but how so?

    I just see it as beating the bully with their own stick. I can’t imagine how anyone would see that and conclude that the bully’s victims are somehow to blame. Probably lack of imagination on my part, so help me out.

    • a_queer_one@lemmy.world
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      19 days ago

      I think the way you applied it showed some nuance, as you talked about it in non-absolute terms. However, when applied broadly it can be harmful.

      If we always assume that homophobes and transphobes are queer and trans, then we assume that queer and trans folx are the ones hurting themselves. It’s a small jump from there to say that closted lgbtq people are the source of lgbtq people’s trauma, which is both harmful and false.

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        19 days ago

        Too many times some shitty person that blamed gays for everything and wanted to rule against them ended up “by mistake” in some party with a dick in his ass.

        That doesn’t mean there aren’t actual bastards that hate anything they don’t understand.