Wild, maybe it’s a regional thing like I said with your group of friends. Fwiw I don’t think there’s such a thing as a trans community IRL btw, most trans people only know one or two other trans people at most. Like I know a few but they all don’t know each other etc.
Yeah that’s what I’m saying, maybe where you live just has a weird proportion of trans people who are fairly close-knit in comparison to other areas (like where I lived in both capital and smaller cities), especially because chances of bumping into another trans person IRL are next to nil because we are some <1% of the population, so perhaps it’s some kinda bay area free love culture you got going on there that just isn’t the experience of the average trans person. Godspeed in any case.
Yeah I can see how that would skew your perception a bit…
Average people don’t really get involved in “scenes” whether they’re queer or not, in fact I’m not even sure exactly what that actually entails.
They’re just people who happen to be queer, same as people who happen to be cis and/or straight, nothing else to it.
In my xp I’ve only ever dated one queer person who had like a fetish and it was light bondage, she def wasn’t in any “scenes” and only had monogamous transbian relationships tho she was technically bi iirc.
Wild, maybe it’s a regional thing like I said with your group of friends. Fwiw I don’t think there’s such a thing as a trans community IRL btw, most trans people only know one or two other trans people at most. Like I know a few but they all don’t know each other etc.
I know at least 10-15 trans people irl. I met my also trans wife irl and not at a trans specific event. We know a lot of us.
Maybe it’s where you live
Yeah that’s what I’m saying, maybe where you live just has a weird proportion of trans people who are fairly close-knit in comparison to other areas (like where I lived in both capital and smaller cities), especially because chances of bumping into another trans person IRL are next to nil because we are some <1% of the population, so perhaps it’s some kinda bay area free love culture you got going on there that just isn’t the experience of the average trans person. Godspeed in any case.
Or it’s just that I hang in very queer spaces. Because this isn’t just one area. But I’m always involved in local gay and kink scenes.
Or maybe you keep winding up in weird places. Or it could be different countries. Idk
Yeah I can see how that would skew your perception a bit…
Average people don’t really get involved in “scenes” whether they’re queer or not, in fact I’m not even sure exactly what that actually entails.
They’re just people who happen to be queer, same as people who happen to be cis and/or straight, nothing else to it.
In my xp I’ve only ever dated one queer person who had like a fetish and it was light bondage, she def wasn’t in any “scenes” and only had monogamous transbian relationships tho she was technically bi iirc.