I know the real answer is reddit but I really don’t want to go back now that I’ve already grown used to life without it. I was hoping for Lemmy to be a viable substitute but it isn’t. I can see how this place is wonderful for the certain type of person but that person is not me. My experience during the past 6+ months has been a net negative and I’m pretty much ready to move on. I just don’t know where else to go.

  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    42
    arrow-down
    6
    ·
    8 months ago

    you’re going to have to tell us what your positions are for example

    There are very few “positions” I hold.

    The “positions” term is usually a shorthand for the eventual distillation of your values. If you haven’t arrived yet at your positions, have you examined on your values? Values are usually far more primitive in the sense they don’t conform exactly to specific public policy, but there is usually public policy that encompasses specific values.

    While its certainly possible for a person’s values to change over time. We usually arrive at what most our values are in our 20s. These are things such as:

    • Your belief in the value of life; Your own vs everyone else’s in society, in the world.
    • Your adoption or rejection on any specific religion or faith
    • Where you decide the right balance is between individualism vs collectivism
    • Your belief in personal responsibility and autonomy vs societal responsibility and obligation

    I believe it is very important for each of us to examine who we are, what our values are, and then use our intellect to decide/craft which positions can be arrived at with guidance from our values.

    When it comes to most subjects I’m not informed enough to form strong opinions so I generally float somewhere in between. For most hot topics I see on Lemmy every day I can usually make good arguments for both ways. I may lean to one side or another but I’m often just a few well written comments away from tipping to the other direction.

    This is where your responsibility comes in. If you’re not informed enough, become so. Listen critically to arguments, don’t simply accept on face value what other proclaim is true. If you’re hearing a logical argument that seems to contradict your understanding, yet aligns with your values, challenge yourself to explore it. The phrase “steel sharpens steel” applies here. If you have healthy and strongly defined personal values, the arguments of your positions should be equally strong and stand up to scrutiny. If your positions are found faulty by your own examination, adopt all or elements of the argument that knocked your position down because its is the right one for your values and ability to critically apply logic with all the information you have available.

    You made other statements about choosing a side, but realistically it isn’t just two sides. Its dozens or hundreds of nuanced views, and every single one could be flawed in some way, or incomplete. Accept that in many situations there isn’t a “right” answer. All sides represented could be wrong and the best you can do is admit this choose the least worse. This constant reexamination and frustration is both the beauty and the horror of being human.

    • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeOP
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      9
      arrow-down
      11
      ·
      8 months ago

      Accept that in many situations there isn’t a “right” answer.

      This is pretty much the essence of what I was trying to say there. The more you study a subject the more you realize how much nuance there is to everything so it’s near impossible to land on any clear conclusion on what to think about it. People often act as if it’s all black and white but it almost never is. Even in cases such as the war in Ukraine where it’s a pretty clear which side is the good and which is the bad one you should still be allowed to examine the alternative perspective too to better understand the “enemy” as well as realize that the good side isn’t wihout a fault either and critizicing them doesn’t automatically make you a Russian troll.

      • BlameThePeacock
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        23
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        8 months ago

        Your analysis is far too shallow to determine Good vs Bad, even in something that should be as clear cut as the Ukraine war. Morality is next to impossible to assign unless you pick a very specific basis on which to analyze it.

        Your starting assumptions matter a lot in morality, like how much you value human life. There are people in this world that do not value life highly because they believe in afterlife situations that are preferable to life on earth as long as you meet the criteria for entrance. Who’s to say they are wrong from a moral perspective?

        If Putin actually believes that the people in eastern Ukraine are being persecuted, and Russia is rescuing them, is that immoral? Would it be immoral for a solider to fight under the belief that they are helping people even if they are not?

        Morality often comes down to belief because it’s not an objective concept.

        Me, I think Putin would look better with a few more holes in him. Is that immoral? Would I be willing to sacrifice myself to kill him? No. Would I be willing to let members of my country’s armed forces sacrifice themselves to kill him despite us not really being involved in the conflict? Probably. That’s some really messy morality right there.

        The thing you need to realize at the end of the day, is that morality is completely personal, and yet it’s entire purpose is to allow societies to get along. At the same time, you need to realize that you didn’t come up with your own ideas of morality, you grew up being indoctrinated (for better or worse) towards a particular type of morality.

        If you had been born somewhere else, to a different family, or even just had different events happen to you in life, you would have a different set of morals.

          • msage@programming.dev
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            15
            ·
            8 months ago

            But why? This has everything to do with philosophy, and nothing to do with most posts on Lemmy.

            • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              9
              ·
              8 months ago

              I believe OP is young and just more into philosophy than politics… ot maybe a combo of both. I know a time when I was like that, so it’s perfectly normal.

              But, unfortunately, yes, there are very few individuals out there that communicate on that level.

              • msage@programming.dev
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                12
                ·
                8 months ago

                I wrote more comments here to express my confusion with OP and their goal.

                The more I read the more I think the problem is from their inability to explain themselves, or perhaps lack of any cohesive want in the first place. Philosophy is fine, controversy is fine, nuance is great, but I get none of the above from OP. It is possible they are young and searching themselves, yet to understand how the world and online discussions work.

                • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  3
                  ·
                  8 months ago

                  It is possible they are young and searching themselves, yet to understand how the world and online discussions work.

                  Yes, that is what I meant when I said young.

                  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    5
                    ·
                    8 months ago

                    I’m agreeing with this conclusion. When all of us were young, we were told what to believe and how to act. As we enter adulthood we carry that conditioning with us, but for us to grow to we need to explore what we personally believe instead of just accepting monolithic fully formed prepackaged beliefs given to us by others. It looks like OP is learning that.

                    OP, if this is true and you’re looking for where to start, start with examining different ethical systems. Look up Kantianism vs Utilitarianism as they are very different from one another but are both logical systems. As you grasp the concepts it will be slightly uncomfortable, but that is part of growth.

      • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        10
        arrow-down
        2
        ·
        8 months ago

        The more you study a subject the more you realize how much nuance there is to everything so it’s near impossible to land on any clear conclusion on what to think about it.

        Take this just one step further: Understand that indecision, is a decision. That inaction, is an action.

        On every topic, you can’t just look at all the arguments and say “none of these are good enough, I select none” forever. By choosing to opt out forever, you allow the voices and actions of those you disagree with to stand in your place. In these situations where there are no good choices, is where you must eventually make a choice (at least for now), and that choice isn’t going to be the best because there isn’t a best choice. Its going to be the least-worse. This is why its so critical to have explored yourself to decide what values you hold. They are your guideposts to how you evaluate and arrive at what path you choose forward.

        Keep looking for better, but don’t let that paralyze you to the point of indecision and inaction.

        • JustEnoughDucks@feddit.nl
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          5
          ·
          8 months ago

          I think OP would be good to watch the first season of the Good Place. There is a character on there that is obsessed with making the correct decision and argues so much with himself and others over every tiny nuance that could shift the balance that he never acts on anything at all unless forced.

          As you said, fence sitting is in an of itself an action, almost always to the detriment of the topic at hand.

        • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeOP
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          5
          arrow-down
          3
          ·
          8 months ago

          Very few subjects are the kind of where one absolutely has to pick a side. That’s kind of like saying you can’t just enjoy football but you have to choose a team to support to. No I don’t.

          Just because one thing is slighly better than the alternative that doesn’t mean I’m all for that one thing then. Israel - Hamas conflict is a good example. I don’t support either side and the more I study the subject the more confusing it gets.

          • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            14
            ·
            8 months ago

            First, I said you can’t be inactive/indecisive forever, that is, if you want your values reflected in the world. If you’re content to having the world be whatever someone else decides for you, then I suppose you can, but that in itself is a choice.

            Very few subjects are the kind of where one absolutely has to pick a side. That’s kind of like saying you can’t just enjoy football but you have to choose a team to support to. No I don’t.

            I’m talking about subjects where you have an opinion for a preference. When you’re a passive watcher of football, there is no outcome that will be against your values. You have no effort to impart with watching football that will affect its outcome.

            Just because one thing is slighly better than the alternative that doesn’t mean I’m all for that one thing then.

            Of course not, but to affect change you may need to accept a chunk of negative with your path to get a larger chunk of positive. Again, there’s no “best” solution, only least worst.

            Israel - Hamas conflict is a good example. I don’t support either side and the more I study the subject the more confusing it gets.

            Its a great example! There are zero good choices here. I’m in a similar position, however what I have concluded is our inaction (yours and mine) is causing the continued deaths of the civilians of Gaza. I value the lives. The most number of lives of the civilians that are the most risk right now are those of Gaza. So I have to ask myself, what can I do to preserve as much of civilians of Gaza? It gets even more complicated in the USA where I can advocate to my representatives for support for civilians of Gaza and try to stop the continued flow of US weapons causing the harm. However, our current politics are tying military support to Taiwan (which I support), Israel (which I do not support anymore), and Ukraine (which I do support) all as one package. To stop Russia from seizing Ukraine (where Russia will eventually use the Ukrainian people for further war against others) do I have to let Israel commit genocide against Gaza’s civilians? Again, there are NO good choices here. Only least worst, and the subjective nature of which one is the least worst is guided by your values.

            You will have to come to your own conclusion, but make not mistake, without you using your voice others are taking a path one way or the other and your values are not being represented.

      • Azzu@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        11
        arrow-down
        3
        ·
        edit-2
        8 months ago

        You know you’re allowed to make comments in threads challenging people if you think their comments are too one sided?

        If you suspect there is an unexplored side to something, you can ask about that, and you’ll very likely get an answer, at least as far as I’ve seen. But usually if no one does that then yeah, like you say, you’ll only see “one side”.

        You don’t have to be a passive observer, you can get the discussion you want by guiding it.

        • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          3
          ·
          8 months ago

          You know you’re allowed to make comments in threads challenging people if you think their comments are too one sided?

          Saying “I’d like to hear a different perspective” is generally interpreted by others as “Your perspective is wrong” and then the assumptions begin, which lead to accusations and bickering.

          • Azzu@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            3
            ·
            8 months ago

            I was speaking of something substantial and specific, not just some abstract stuff. For example, idk, "why not halt all arms deliveries to Ukraine? We need the weapons/money ourselves. I.e. some actual question about the topic. Because if you can’t form a question like that, then it doesn’t even make sense really to “hear a different perspective” as this different perspective will have no meaning for you.

            But it seems anyway, after reading OPs responses to this thread, that they don’t really care about diverse viewpoints, just about their own viewpoints not being disregarded/dismissed/argued against.

        • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeOP
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          9
          arrow-down
          8
          ·
          8 months ago

          It gets quite tiring after a while that instead of having to defend the point you’re trying to make you instead have to defend yourself as a person. Ad-hominem is what a huge portion of active commentors here reach for when ever someone says something that they disagree with.

          • Azzu@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            14
            arrow-down
            2
            ·
            edit-2
            8 months ago

            But then your problem does not seem to be diversity. Why do you act like it is?

            • Thorny_Insight@lemm.eeOP
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              7
              arrow-down
              9
              ·
              edit-2
              8 months ago

              Views to the right of centre are almost entirely missing from Lemmy so the problem is lack of diversity. Or perhaps I should say one of the problems. Incivility on social media on the other hand is not an issue unique to Lemmy.

              • Azzu@lemm.ee
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                18
                arrow-down
                2
                ·
                edit-2
                8 months ago

                People right of centre usually have no problem at all with companies like Reddit behaving like it is, like going for an IPO etc, so they haven’t attempted to switch off it yet. I’d just go back to reddit if you want to see these right-wing viewpoints. You haven’t really explained why you don’t want to go back, it seems suited to solve your problem.