Feel ya. I was 50 and some young neighbors were hanging out one Saturday, 20-yo or so. I noticed a friend’s hands were absolutely perfect, beautiful hands. Slim, long, porcelain white.
And it grossed me out. They looked like doll’s hands, a child’s hands. Eww.
My wife, same age, doesn’t understand why I so love her hands. They have age, maturity, I love them.
Valuing each other’s “mileage” is so wholesome and needs to be normalized. Too many of us are taught we have this tiny window of being pleasing to look at before the “imperfections” start getting toted up…and it isn’t true. I can’t imagine being with someone in their early 20’s. That’s still a kid in my eyes! They need to BE a kid and experience relationships with other kids where they are equals in figuring out everything together.
My partner and I are about a year apart in age and we remember all our weird awkward growing up moments together where we struggled to figure things out and each one is a treasure. They if anything get just get more and more attractive with age.
Feel ya. I was 50 and some young neighbors were hanging out one Saturday, 20-yo or so. I noticed a friend’s hands were absolutely perfect, beautiful hands. Slim, long, porcelain white.
And it grossed me out. They looked like doll’s hands, a child’s hands. Eww.
My wife, same age, doesn’t understand why I so love her hands. They have age, maturity, I love them.
Anyways, this dude freaks me out.
Valuing each other’s “mileage” is so wholesome and needs to be normalized. Too many of us are taught we have this tiny window of being pleasing to look at before the “imperfections” start getting toted up…and it isn’t true. I can’t imagine being with someone in their early 20’s. That’s still a kid in my eyes! They need to BE a kid and experience relationships with other kids where they are equals in figuring out everything together.
My partner and I are about a year apart in age and we remember all our weird awkward growing up moments together where we struggled to figure things out and each one is a treasure. They if anything get just get more and more attractive with age.