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  • Hyperreality@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Invasion of privacy. Not cool, even if reddit is a public forum, but shit happens, just don’t mention it.

    I often used to lie about small details on reddit, obfuscating for privacy reasons. This being said, it sounds like she’s not over her ex and not that into you.

    Relationships take work, and it sounds like you aren’t communicating enough with each other. Be honest that you’re worried. Something like “I love you a lot, so if you have doubts about this relationship or don’t feel you really love me as much as your ex, I want to know now so it hurts less.”

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      1 year ago

      How is it an invasion of privacy if the content in question isn’t private? Literally the only thing private is the link between the username and the person, which OP hasn’t done anything to violate.

      (I’m assuming OP only looked up the public info, not logging into D’s account)

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        That’s like saying “how is it an invasion of privacy to stalk someone? They were walking around on public streets the whole day!”. It’s more about consent and gut feeling IMO. She didn’t choose to share her Reddit name with OP and seemed not to want him to know.

        Not going to comment on anything else that’s happening here, just wanted to respond to that one point

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          That’s like saying “how is it an invasion of privacy to stalk someone? They were walking around on public streets the whole day!”.

          That’s not even close to comparable.

          When you post publicly on Reddit, you give permission for anyone with access to Reddit to read your posts. That naturally includes OP.

          You calling this an invasion of privacy is like calling someone who follows and listens to podcasts that you create and broadcast an invasion of your privacy. If you put stuff out to the world, you have to realise that ‘the world’ also includes your SO and other people in your life who can link it back to you. Hiding behind a username won’t change that fact.

          Not gonna continue, you want to leave it here and I’ll respect your wishes.