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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/sevennuppp on 2024-01-23 15:41:59+00:00.

I’m 15f.

My great aunt married my great uncle when I was very little. I was never very close with either of them, as I was always slightly terrified of men who weren’t my dad because of my mom’s ex-boyfriend who made it painfully obvious he hated little 6 year old me. I only ever really saw my aunt and uncle on Thanksgiving or Easter, because they always made the family dinners. This summer, however, that changed.

My great aunt’s nephew, my uncle (different uncle), was diagnosed with brain cancer. My nana asked my great aunt if she would let him live on hospice in her house because her own was far too small and messy. She agreed with no hesitation and my great uncle did as well.

I practically lived down there the first few weeks of summer until he passed, even then I went to their house almost everyday to make sure my nana, who was his mother, was okay. My great uncle always made sure to have biscuit’s prepared for me when I got there. He even taught me to drive because my dad was always busy with work.

My mother struggles financially and has no way of transportation for me. I’m an athlete who also has various appointments each month, such as therapy and the orthodontist. So it was getting increasingly difficult to ask my friends and neighbors for rides. (My dad would do it, but they’re no longer together and he lives 20 minutes away from my mom and works.) My uncle started giving me rides to where I needed to go, which I appreciate greatly.

He even drives a 45 minute drive to pick me up for school in the mornings and sometimes after practice as well. He gets me food everyday and I appreciate it. But sometimes he oversteps his boundaries in my opinion.

I went through a breakup recently and anytime I would cry in front of my uncle he would get angry at me and yell at me and say there was “no sense in crying over a boy.” He later apologized for that when I obviously started giving him the silent treatment because he was upsetting me.

He gets angry if I call anyone but him for a ride. I called my nana to pick me up from practice because I missed her and wanted to see her. My uncle found out and called me and was angry I didn’t call him. He was half-joking, but why does it matter if I wanna spend time with my nana?

He’s done little things, such as threatening to take my phone if I didn’t put it down, threatening to whip me (not weirdly, he just believes that whipping should still be used as a punishment), getting mad if I don’t call him and tell him news that aren’t his business anyways, etc.

Sometimes it’s just frustrating because it feels as though he’s trying to overstep and be a father-figure towards me when I have an amazing father already. I love my uncle, but sometimes it just feels like he sees me as his daughter, which I’m not. It would be different if I had grown up close to him, but I didn’t. As I got older, I started liking my own space and I get very angry when people try to overstep.

AITA?