• Allero@lemmy.today
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    6 months ago

    Thanks for your points. While I stand by my position of regulation over reverse discrimination, I understand where you’re coming from here.

    I’d like to point one thing out, however, and it stems directly from the intersection of abovementioned issue and the one you raise about Lemmy.

    The place is certainly male-dominated, and yes, this can make local ethos more male-centric and masculist. Also as you rightfully mentioned, Lemmy is one of the few avenues where such thought can be propagated efficiently and not be overwhelmed in the oblivion by feminist/conservative voices.

    We are, generally, in the minority, yet when we get to concentrate our voices somewhere - like Lemmy - and dominate small part of the Internet you belong to, this naturally makes you uncomfortable.

    That happens because you’d like to have an equal footing everywhere, and don’t want to be discriminated against even in a small alcove that is this place.

    We don’t want that, either. We don’t want to be discriminated against somewhere just because males historically dominate in other place. We don’t want to lose access to our dreams and jobs (in the abovementioned case) because previous generation has screwed it up the other way around. Many of us, however, are perfectly happy to promote a healthier workplace ethic, including towards women, and popularize females working in male-domimated spaces. This way is sometimes more rocky, but it is fair and it allows to even things out without having to radicalize and tilt scales towards the domination of the other gender.

    Should “male job fairs” appear for female-dominated jobs, I’ll also stand against it, despite the knee-jerk to give males preference at taking new places to balance it out quicker and promote the new culture.

    With that being said, I welcome you here on Lemmy and hope more feminist and generally female voices will join in. I’m also happy to promote feminist initiatives in this place (without forgetting masculist ones), so hit me up if something crosses your mind.

    • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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      6 months ago

      Your point of view is completely valid, and I do like having alternative points of view presented to me (hence why I said I didn’t want to turtle up in a more accepting instance.) In the end, I’m not an expert on thus kind of stuff, I can only argue based on my personal experience and how things have made me feel.

      I think regulation is a completely valid way to approach it, considering it’s still a step forward regardless of if it’s the best way or not, so I far from oppose the idea. It’s just not the way I would do it if I were in charge.

      Honestly, in the end, I think true equality is impossible, and is more of the ideal than the end goal. The only important part to me is to make sure we’re always going forward instead of backward.