• stebo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      1 year ago

      A relationship between a 20 yo and a 17 yo isn’t unethical. It’s not like we magically become more mature once we turn 18.

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        1 year ago

        You kind of do. People change a lot after being in a major new phase of their life for a year.

        I’m not going to say 17 and 20 is outright unethical. It’s possible for that to have been a freshman and junior in high school who had a long term relationship. They’re not required to break up.

        But a 20 year old meeting a 17 year old is significantly more creepy, and is likely due to the power imbalance.

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          People change a lot after being in a major new phase of their life for a year.

          What is this major new phase you’re talking about? graduating high school? I fail to see how that’s related to relationships. Also some people graduate earlier or later.

          But a 20 year old meeting a 17 year old is significantly more creepy

          Is an 18 year old meeting a 17 year old also creepy? Where do you put the limit? Why is a 30 year old meeting an 18 year old suddenly ok?

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      1 year ago

      If I recall correctly, over here once the person reaches the age of consent (16) it’s considered legally acceptable if the different is + 4 years, meaning a 20 years old couldn’t be accused of being a pedo if they were going out with a consenting 16 years old…

      They just need to remember to not be idiots and not to share pictures…