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  • This makes me realize that I can’t think of hardly any videogames with a black character at the forefront.

    Sure, there are black playable characters in MOBAs and MMOs, but how many story-driven games have black characters at the forefront?

    The most recent one I can think of is Alan Wake 2. And Spider-Man Miles Morales. But there really are so few compared to those with white main characters. Which is sad.







  • That’s a rare combination to have all in one person.

    It’s also way too much to ask of someone. It’s not fair of you to expect that someone forgoes their own emotional health to take care of yours. A relationship is a transaction, like it or not. There’s push and pull, each person needs to get something positive out of it and if you’re spending so much time telling your partner they’re a bad person, they’re going to leave. Nobody deserves that.

    That’s not to say you don’t deserve love, because you do. But it sounds like there’s a lot of work ahead for you to manage your mental health and get to a place where you can trust someone in the way they should be trusted in a loving relationship.

    Both of these things would seem like obvious things almost anybody could provide, but when I’m crying constantly or trauma is getting triggered multiple times a day, even the best people walk out, or snap.

    This behavior is extremely exhausting for someone to manage. Your partner has their own problems to deal with too. Between work, school, children, planning meals, managing the house, vacations, holidays, healthcare, and many more things, there’s so much work to be done in life. You need to be a productive part of the relationship. Share in the burdens of life to help make them easier on someone, as they do for you, instead of being another chore to deal with.

    My suggestion is to continue spending a lot of time working on yourself. Learn to trust again, learn to love yourself, understand the needs of others, and understand the part you play in a relationship. Nobody is obligated to love you, but (almost) everyone is deserving of love (I say almost because there are insanely cruel people in this world).

    Lastly, ALL OF WHAT I SAID APPLIES TO YOU TOO FROM SOMEONE ELSE. Anything you need from someone is something that someone should be able to provide to you, and vice-versa. Don’t expect anything from anyone that you wouldn’t do yourself, just as they shouldn’t do the same. Find someone who wants to take care of you, the same way that you will take care of them.









  • This guy’s first problem is watching movies on his cable provider’s on-demand service. On-demand has been crap since its inception.

    And then:

    We are now at the point in the history of show business where a bad experience is free and a decent one costs extra.

    This is literally how it’s always been. And this the crux of this dude’s issues. He’s not willing to pay for content and is using freeware and crapware to watch movies. You can’t complain about a bad service if you’re not paying for it.

    He wants the solution? Ditch cable, buy movies and TV shows or pay for streaming services without ads. It’s really that simple.


  • The biggest problem is that federation splits the communities between instances. So a single interest may have 5-10 different communities, all with fewer users than on an equivalent subreddit.

    I’ve been saying this since the beginning, Lemmy needs a way to follow topics that allow you to subscribe to all related communities at once. And posting to a topic on one community allows it to show up across different communities of the same topic.