Dog dad in Edmonton, Alberta. Tech enthusiast and entrepreneur.
I wouldn’t necessarily call myself a “power tripping asshole”, just someone that has a different perspective on paid software.
I appreciate your views, as they lead to good discussion, but I won’t tolerate childish insults. I won’t ban you, but I will ask that you conduct yourself properly while sharing your opinions.
It would seem we can’t have a civil discussion about this, so I’ve locked the post.
I found dating challenging as well. What I noticed though, was that the quality of matches went way up. The few folks I’d chat with were open, clear with their expectations, and knew what they were looking for. No aimless dating and assumptions.
The same can be said for monogamous relationships, but we’re not taught how to be clear with our needs, making assumptions and guesswork the foundation for relationships.
I’m glad you’ve found something that works for you, and I’m proud of you for challenging yourself.
There are a few different spectrums to consider.
Sex - Asexual to swinging NSA Relationships - Closed to Open Partners - One to Many
Any variation of these is valid, and provides non-linear descriptions for folks to find their relationship identities.
Excellent points. Every relationship is valid, and only we can determine what works for ourselves. I choose poly and CNM because I have an abundance of love to offer, and know I can’t find everything I need in one person.
I appreciate the concerns about jealousy and division of attention. Those are common concerns, and often seen in any relationship. For me, jealousy is a fear of loss. If I’m not afraid to lose my partner, what am I afraid of? This is what led me to understand that I was envious of someone spending time with her, not that I was afraid to lose her.
As for the division of time, that is definitely a concern. If I don’t balmace and manage my relationships properly, someone will feel neglected, and that’s not okay. Having two partners requires additional effort, communication, and vulnerability. I can’t get away with shit, and I have continually own up to my actions with full accountability.
That all being said, my parents are a model of sustainable, healthy monogamy, and I treasure that. They’ve been an example of what’s also possible, and I would never discount that. If people are open and honest with themselves and others, any relationship can be just as healthy and sustainable.
I use multiple paid services, including Plex, and I wouldn’t consider myself a moron.
I also don’t use derogatory language in a forum to make a point. Be civil or you’ll be removed.
Great question. The main point that’s shaped my view on it, is that no person owes me their time, and I can’t own them.
My partner and I have been together for 7 years, and started off as non-mono (CNM Poly). We’ve always respected each other’s autonomy and independence. During that time, we developed a stable, loving relationship, and encouraged each other to meet other people. I understand that she owes me nothing, and I can’t control her time or who she spends her time with. This was established at the beginning, so expectations were managed properly from the start.
That being said, we both choose to stay together. We’ve been through hell in the last 7 years, and I wouldn’t do it with anyone else. I’m comfortable knowing she’ll continue to be with me, despite her other relationships. Even if she decides this waa no longer a relationship she wanted to be in, it would suck and I would be heartbroken, but I would survive, and eventually be okay.
Another core belief is that we can’t possibly expect one person to meet all of our needs. This is a completely unreasonable expectation. It’s suffocating, and puts way too much pressure on your partner. We both have other people in our lives that help to round out our relationships.
The biggest thing for me is that ever single person involved intentionally chooses to be in the relationship they’re in. They’re not in the relationship due to a default, or expectation from a mono normative society. They’re making the intentional choice to do what makes them happy.
I’d be happy to answer any questions you might have about the topic. This is something near and dear to me, and respectful curiosity from others always sparks joy in me.
I’ve used Niagara for probably 5 years now. Quick, light, and highly customizable. Yes, there’s a paid option, and I like to support the devs.
I’ve been using Flameshot, and it’s been awesome for just this. Tons of annotations, and very easy to copy or save screenshots.
I set up a 6 as well, and it works great except for the camera. Looks like it’s a piece of hardware with a specific driver needed. There’s an open source project to support this, but it’s not often updated, from what I can tell.
ISO 8601 for the win!
Ok, going through that source, I can see how some of that must be an AI hallucination. “Fluffernutter” can’t actually be a thing, can it?
I’m not at all disagreeing that Cam’s Ham isn’t serving Country Ham. I was just hoping to provide a little context to the graphic using the cited sources and some additional information.
It’s a graphic that someone’s probably put a fair bit of effort into, not spam. This is spam:
Here’s a restaurant in Virginia that specializes in that…
I also mention in another comment that this is likely based on a list by the Food Network.
Looks like this was based off a list of 50 sandwiches made popular by the Food Network and Zagat magazine.
https://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/packages/sandwich-central/50-states-50-sandwiches
Specifically Cam’s Ham in Virgina advertises the Ham and Mayo sandwich.
Are these “state sandwiches”? Probably not. Judging by the comments, you’re all rather passionate about your sandwiches and what they represent. I’ve even received reports on this post saying it’s false information. Perhaps we need to consider the source of this information and take it with a grain of salt.
Thank you all for remaining civil, and acknowledging the existing of sandwich alternatives such as hot dogs, tacos, and quesadillas.
Please feel free to share these resources, and any others you deem important. Suicide risk is not something to take lightly.
While I typically try to avoid divisive comments in these light-hearted communities, this is a fairly informative one, especially in the context of etymology.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ilah
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allah#Etymology
We should also not be condoning scoffing at someone based on their understanding. Perhaps these could be opportunities to educate people that are unfamiliar with the differences.
Thank you. I appreciate the kind words.
The bot brings in content from R, but it’s been set up to do so for a specific reason. In order to attract new users and subscribers, new content has to be posted. Kind of a chicken/egg scenario.
The bot pulls from the Hot category of r/Edmonton, allowing it to at least make use of preliminary user filtering from R. Without that, it would be pulling from New, providing much lower qualities of content.
If you have any recommendations or suggestions, throw 'em at me! I’m all ears (or eyes, in this case)
Or… Migrate to another email service provider?