Let it all out. Be a storm

  • gaydarless
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    1 year ago

    I’m at a crossroads in life where I need to start making large and impactful decisions about my future. It’s a very lonely place to be.

    Will my long term relationship last?

    Do I want it to?

    Will I try to stay in this (IRL) community?

    Do I want to?

    Will I stay in this career path?

    Can I afford not to?

    Etc.

    Usually I’d talk to my partner about all this, but because our relationship is also part of my issues, I feel like I can’t. So as a result… I’m feeling lonely and overwhelmed.

    • arcrust@lemmy.fmhy.ml
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      1 year ago

      Are you me?

      Seriously, I feel you. I recently had a big life change to something that I thought I wanted to do. Turns out, it isn’t even close to what I expected. Not that it’s bad. Most people would consider it their dream. But is it what I want to do? I dunno.

      It feels like I’ve just been following everyone elses dream. I wish I could just do a long walk about. Like hike the apalations and really consider what I want for me. Unfortunately, I have people that depend on me, so I can’t.

      I did start therapy recently and it’s been a huge help.

    • cantankerousnuts@lemmy.one
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      1 year ago

      That’s really tough. I’m sorry you feel like you have no one to talk to, especially when you’re considering such tough decisions. If it’s worth anything: it is my opinion that at some point it’s ok to be “selfish” and consider the things that will make you a happier, healthier person in the long run so that you can then share this “better person” with someone who deserves it. Take a break, assess, regroup and start over. You got this!!