• ram
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    2 years ago

    I try my best to do the opposite for my partner, giving her a safe space and empower her to advocate for herself. Even when we have disagreements, I go out of my way to make sure she knows her point of view’s valid and that I care about what she thinks.

    I’ve been in gaslighting relationships before, so I strive to foster an environment that’s the opposite of that for both of us. ❤️

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      2 years ago

      Excellent point. Allowing space for reflection and self discovery is important.

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        2 years ago

        It’s tough because she has a lot of trauma too. Sometimes there’s power imbalance caused by perception and trauma, wherein she feels like even if I say she should speak her mind, I’ll get upset if she does. Vigilance is necessary to regain balance. ^^

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          2 years ago

          Yep, trauma is a powerful beast. My partner has also been working on this and she’s made some amazing progress. Despite that, she still recognizes the triggers are still there and works through them