• oni ᓚᘏᗢ@lemmy.worldEnglish
    145·
    2 days ago

    what’s the deal with this trend of being afraid of talk with people when you already are talking with people?

    • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      23·
      2 days ago

      For me: phones cut off an entire avenue of information (body language) and make it harder to know if someone is annoyed at you or when you should talk. Also I’m not a fan of talking to strangers, but it’s not as bad when they’re in front of me.

    • Pronell@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      2 days ago

      My buddies and I used to have board game nights. When we inevitably ended up ordering food, people would start pitching in the money just so they didn’t have to call. (As in yes, the guy who made the call got to eat for free.)

    • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      12·
      2 days ago

      Those are known people, versus calling a stranger.

      I get it. I used to have a lot of phone-related anxiety. I ended up practicing making calls a lot, and now I can call anyone.

      I’d be more mad if my friend let me die because they couldn’t do CPR! All my friends have their first aid certification!

      • oni ᓚᘏᗢ@lemmy.worldEnglish
        57·
        2 days ago

        You’re talking to a person to get a service, you’re not going to socialize with the 911 girl. You are calling to order a pizza, not calling to impress the person in the other side of the phone.

        • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          20·
          2 days ago

          Phone anxiety is an anxiety, it can’t really be logicked away. But you can sometimes practice it away, desensitize yourself to it.

          • hydration9806@lemmy.mlEnglish
            1·
            2 days ago

            It’s definitely a real thing, but not exactly ADHD related (except for how ADHD people seem to often have anxiety too)

    • Demdaru@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      2 days ago

      On a call, I need to be constantly available and have that stupid mask of happy, springy person.

      On text, I can chill out. Modulating text is easier and also I don’t really need to do this that much, because people can’t read tone hints in text anyway.

    • jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      51·
      2 days ago

      For me it’s not fear. It’s having to power up my “extrovert persona”. I’m happy to do it. I enjoy talking to people but it’s also exhausting.